I'v just found out im pregnant. I'm 18 in just a week, Iv just finished college and now waiting for my results, i want this baby so does my boyfriend but im so scared as i need to make a choice between this baby or my career. Im meant to be going to University in september and this is what all my family are all expecteting me to do so they would be dissapointed. Iv thought about this long and hard and realise that if i go through with this then i deffently want to go back to work as soon as the baby is old enough and hopefully attending uni through an apprentaship which would be through work. My boyfriend is so scared of my family and how disapointed they will be thats whats pushing him towards 'not wanting this baby' i always tell him its about us not others! I obviously need time to think about all this so need to know when at the lastest i wil be able to have an abortion if things were not to go right and also what ways this will be as i know early on you can take a pill when can you not do this? Please help or give me advice as i really need it. Thanks.
Well it's well passed 2009, but anyone reading this should reconsider if they have a situation like this.
If you had an unplanned pregnancy, and you had sex assuming you wouldn't get pregnant but now are, it's best to reconsider your position for taking away the life of your child. Although the child is small and still developing in your stomach, she still relies on you to keep her alive. Don't give her life away so wrecklessly just because you miscalculated your plans. You didn't undergo a trauma or rape.
If you don't feel financially comfortable there are many resources for women who still pursue their career while they're a parent. Granted its not easy, but that's just part of being an adult and being responsible for your actions. There are resources that do make it easier.
Here are some resources if you feel that you're contemplating abortion or you're reluctant about parenthood:
Physiciansforlife.org - this site will tell you about how hospitals can take care of you if you have an unplanned pregnancy and how there are many programs that can aid your pregnancy. They also inform you about the problems of abortion.
Feministsforlife.org - a great site for women and informs women of their real options and not just resorting to abortion as a means to further your career.
Before someone invites you to abort a child, please reconsider all the less violent options like adoption where many hopeful and loving families have tried to have a child but were unable to. Or custodial guardianship where someone else has taken the responsiblity because they want to, or even taking care of the baby yourself and preparing you and your family. Always inform yourself of all the possible options. Just because taking away an unborn baby's life is legal doesn't make it right or okay.