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First off, my psychiatrist says I'm a latent homosexual -- predominantly a heterosexual male, but a latent homosexual. I've never had a homosexual experience in my life and am not interested in one. The realistic possibility of sexual contact with a man really grosses me out. My sexual experiences are limited to women and they are very enjoyable for me.

My homosexual thoughts began at puberty. When I was a boy I had no sexual interest in other boys. I experience my homosexual thoughts as instrusive, alien and painful. I do not fantasize about performing homosexual acts with other men. I am aroused by the sight of attractive men. I masturbate to thoughts of or pictures of physically attractive men. When I fantasize about women I think about performing sex acts with women. The instrusive and alien nature of my homosexual thoughts leads me to wonder whether they may be an expression of OCD -- obsessive compulsive disorder.

I'm aroused only by anonymous, good-looking men. I will see a good-looking guy on the street, for example, and fantasize about him during a private moment. I masturbate to gay porn.

I'm not at all attracted to guys I know. When I'm in a locker room, I'm not at all aroused by guys I know -- only the anonymous, good looking ones.

I had a good-looking roommate in college. I used to see him naked all the time and was never aroused by him. I never had any sexual thoughts or feelings about him. I masturbated very little when we were roommates and never to him.

When I tell straight guys about this, they say I'm homosexual. But it's more complex than that. I don't consider myself bisexual because I'm not equally attracted to men and women. Again, only anonymous, attractive men are a turn on for me. It's really weird, I admit it.

Is there anybody else like me out there?
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First Helper joe18503
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replied October 1st, 2008
Hey
Yes i am kind of going through the same thing, i have a Girlfriend who is bisexual and i ask many questions of her to see what it is actually like. I dont think i could see myself actually doing anything with another guy, but sometimes like you said those thoughts come in. It even goes as far as i would rather watch porn with men and woman as oppose to just woman. so maybe if we chat and get things on the table we can figure all of this out. I wouldnt consider myself homosexal becuase i have a girlfriend, but when i work out at the gym and im showering there might be this guy with the body of a greek god and it gets me to think so then i hurry out of the shower not to get embarressed. but i think a small part of it has to be that i want to have that body and how attractive it is to have that body does that make sense??
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replied October 7th, 2008
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I went thru this when I was 14-19. I am gay but I never wanted to do anything with a guy and only thought about guys when I j/off but it was a curiousity and an attraction to non - camp, attractive guys my age who I did NOT KNOW and it freaked me out completely because I used to j/off to girls..

you know when you start jacking off, well i wondered if other guys did too and it helped with the guilt it became a habit.. as my body started to change (get hairier) I was curious about other guys.. being curious about myself I would j/off infront of the mirror and this prob intilled that male image further.

I have a bf. he always wants anal sex but its not really my thing.. it it pleasurable coz the male g-spot is up there but its more trouble than its worth..

i'm 28 btw
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replied November 20th, 2008
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Im 21 yrs old and I consider myself a bi-sexual male due too the fact of like u IM NOT GAY. As an crazy, logial answer to myself and my sexuality I had sex with a man to decide my curiousity. I believe that its completely normal to have "thoughts" or even an attraction to the same sex due to simple curiosity. Im not saying go have sex with a random guy (I didnt) but it will definetly be a huge factor in your decision making.

Just as you Joe I j/o to gay porn to question myself and it was scary!! Not having attractions to the people you know is a level of mutual respect that you have towards your peers which I also completely can relate too.

As of now I have a great boyfreind but I know I am bi because I can still be sexually aroused by a women. It could be a phase or denying the enevitable...
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replied December 3rd, 2008
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Kinsey's Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale
Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories... The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects,

While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history... An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life.... A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist.

Kinsey, et al. (1948). Sexual Behavior in the Human Male.
Kinsey Scale



0- Exclusively heterosexual with no homosexual
1- Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2- Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3- Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4- Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5- Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6- Exclusively homosexual

http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/a k-hhscale.html
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replied January 3rd, 2009
33 bi married male
hi everyone
thanks for all the cool posts. I totally get all the other men out there who fancy hot lads but fancy mainly women. Im in thath group, I dont wnat sex with a man, never have, but I do get turned on by hot men and have experimented in minor ways. Would love to chat with any other men who are bi out there, or who think they might be as Im pretty isolated and could do with chatting with sum1 in the same boat as me. cheers buddies. dave
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replied April 4th, 2009
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Hi
I have some questions about experimenting contact me if you want
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replied April 4th, 2009
well im not gay but as you said youd rather watch a male and female than 2 females... im the same way as that but it just seems unnatural to me
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replied May 28th, 2009
those thoughts
But guess what guys..only 10% of the world's male population is 100% heterosexual..the other 10% is completey gay, while the rest of the world's men, (WHO LIVE STRAIGHT LIVES) are in between..(they have homosexual thoughts, fantasies and many have done it) but due to social pressures they preffer the opposite sex as the norm. What I'm trying to say is that most of the straight friends that you know have similar thoughts and fantasies, however they are hesitant on acting out those thoughts.
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replied August 27th, 2009
I masturbate to kissing a boy or sometimes giving him head, yet ive never been attracted to a guy in my whole life, i've only had crushes on girls and when i do masturbate to these thoughts i feel depressed and suicidal, i nearly slit my wrists at one point, but i only love women and if i scrutinize the thoughts properly i don't like the thought of being in a relationship with a man it just is not me also whenever i think of being in a relationship with a woman it makes me smile and i feel happy. I have a girlfreind we've kissed and she has touched my groinal area and i was really aroused, but even so i still have to check whether i am gay or not, by watching gay porn to reassure myself and i keep doing this, gay fantasies and gay porn does not give me an erection however mastuburbating to them i orgasm why is this i am so sad is this hocd or repressed homosexuality please help! SadSadSadSad P.S I am 19 and just only discovered masturbation 2 months ago
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replied September 2nd, 2009
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First of all your psychiatrist should never be identifying your sexuality unless it's in relation to treatment of a mania or obsession and even then they're not qualified to identify a sexual preference that you're not comfortable with.

If you want to find out why you're totally totally straight but keep masturbating to gay porn psychology is the medicine you should be looking into.

I realize that not everyone likes bisexuals but if you're sexually attracted to men and you're sexually attracted to women then it's really ok to identify yourself as one. Telling yourself that you're straight because you'd never sleep with a close male friends is kind of like telling yourself that you're gay because you only ever have sex with strange women you meet at clubs. I wouldn't sleep with my close friends of either gender, but I run with a pretty unattractive crowd. You have a sexual attraction to both genders, you're bisexual, you're like most people on the planet and it's fine for you to be this way.
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replied March 11th, 2010
WOLF by reading your last sentence on your post...are you saying that "most people on the planet" have these bisexual thoughts????
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replied March 11th, 2010
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That's the current thinking. Kinkey roughly estimated the portion of the population that's bisexual at 70%. The problem in defining how much of the population falls into what sexual preference is that most people who are sexually attracted to both genders don't considder themselves to be bisexual because they are content being in either heterosexual or homosexual relationships or they are afraid of the stigma of bisexuality so they're not open about their sexual history. If you wanted to know the number of people who have sex with both genders my estimate would be pretty low, closer to 5-10%
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replied May 16th, 2010
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All very intriguing. I'm 36 and have never had sex with a man, but in the last couple years the ideas of a 3some kept popping into my mind. One where a couple and I would meet and we would all get it on. She would lead me and help me please her man orally. It's turned into quite a fantasy. Now, as I'm in a new hetero relationship and I really love this girl, I don't want some dark fantasy to wreak havoc. What can I do?
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replied May 16th, 2010
All very intriguing. I'm 36 and have never had sex with a man, but in the last couple years the ideas of a 3some kept popping into my mind. One where a couple and I would meet and we would all get it on. She would lead me and help me please her man orally. It's turned into quite a fantasy. Now, as I'm in a new hetero relationship and I really love this girl, I don't want some dark fantasy to wreak havoc. What can I do?
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replied June 5th, 2010
I am 29 yrs old, and have been attracted to old men for past 18 years and fantasize/masturbate thinking about them, though never acted out. I also get attracted to women, but the intensity is not as high as with men. I wonder whether just having fantasy makes you gay. Also I would like to enhance the intensity of my heterosexual attractions. Any suggestions?
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replied June 5th, 2010
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Sexuality is defined by action, not intention. If you've not engaged in sex with someone of your gender you are not bisexual/homosexual. There's not a great deal you can do about who you're attracted two. It's much about who you are. You can act on your homosexual desires, if it's an obsession and not your sexuality it will sort itself out, if it's how you're meant to operate, sex with a man will give you some clarity to allow you to move forward.
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replied June 16th, 2010
Latent homosexuality as an unconscious identification self?
Maybe what is happening when a "straight" guy looks at gay porn or feels attracted to another man is a sort of identification with his maleness? This maleness piques his own maleness. In marketing, for example, they've discovered that you have to pick the model which the target audience can identify with. Thus there is the old "Marlboro" man. That attractive guy "piques" the maleness in me. I put "him on" like a glove in my sexual response to women though him. It's not directly wanting him as my sexual object, but only my instrument to reach my object more effectively?
Well, it's just my theory if it may help someone.
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replied June 17th, 2010
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Don't take this as criticism but I'm just trying to figure out how that mechanism works. If the sort of man that you relate to, that you identify with as an example of masculinity, is having sex with someone of the same gender, couldn't that be indicating that perhaps you're the sort of man who finds other men sexually attractive?
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replied June 17th, 2010
Same sex attraction may be part of "role modelling"
Wolf, in the case of gay pornography, it probably indicates some level of same-sex attraction. In my post I was thinking of the case someone mentioned above of the "anonymous male" that is found attractive by a heterosexual male. "Yes, that's what I want to be like!" The "marlboro" man idealization takes place implicitly. I would think this is akin to the way a boy might form role models too, for playing baseball or for eventually having sex. The role model is not just a picture on a baseball card but an example of how to act out on the playing field or elsewhere.
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