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my clit is really big, i have a boyfriend who says he is ok with it, but i feel insecure, i feel like i cant measure up to what other "normal" girls have.
i just cant seem to get around this, its ruing our relationship but i feel like its my only chance for acceptance from a partner and if cant handle it with someone as understanding as him, i dont feel like i could be with anyone else and handle how i feel about myself does this mean i have to be alone?
i feel so disgusting. i cant even watch tv shows or movies with my boyfriend and see another attractive woman with out feeling my face turn red, feeling like throwing up and ashamed.
urg ive just been dealing with this for so long with no one to talk to i don't know what to do someone please give me some insight
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replied January 31st, 2011
a lot of guys love big clits. you're going to be fine. just, take a xanax or something and enjoy sex. erase the bad memories with good, albeit drugged, memories. that's just for the anxiety
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replied February 1st, 2011
I actually went to my doctor today she gave me some medication, but it just makes me feel uh tired : /
.. if alot of guys love big clits why does it seem like the opposite is what is desired ?.
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replied February 1st, 2011
i feel like when i get to the point where i can enjoy myself, i just start to feel embarrassed of mybody.
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replied February 1st, 2011
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purplesoul, Don't project your own insecurities on your partner or men in general. They do not care about the size of your clitoris. Many men love a larger clitoris. I bet your boyfriend just love sucking it and pleasuring you. So why are you fighting it? It seems like you are your own worst enemy. If you have any doubts, go to the men's forum and ask the question there. You will be absolutely amazed at the answers - guaranteed. Contrary to what you believe, many men prefer women with a bit of 'character'. If all genitals looked the same, the world will be an extremely boring place.

In order for you to be abnormal, your clitoris will have to be gigantic. What pills did your doctor give you? An enlarged clitoris is normally a sign of heightened testosterone, normally because of ovarian cysts (PCOS/PCOD) or steroids.

Take care and stop beating yourself up about nothing. If anything, it is a positive thing, not a negative thing. It is normal to feel insecure. It is not normal to not deal with it in a positive way. Self confidence is every thing. Your boyfriend wants a self confident girlfriend, not an insecure and ashamed girl friend.
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replied February 2nd, 2011
my doctor has not givin me anything for it, yet we did talk my anxiety because of it ..
im working up to talking about whats really bothering me.
ive never taken steroids, but is pcos/pcod curable?
I'm not even sure what the problem is but im finally doing something about it and talking to my doctor.
ive been trying to be more open with my boyfriend since seening my doctor, we are trying new things in bed, i dont want to push him away its just hard to deal with sometimes, i have such low confidence in my self and i dont know how to change it
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replied February 4th, 2011
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PurpleSoul, Once again, you are putting pressure on yourself. You are the only one having a problem with the way you look. You are the only one thinking that you are unattractive.

I bet you if you ask your boyfriend what he likes about your body, your clitoris will be right up there at the top of his list. You are the only one having a problem with it.

You obviously have some idealized image about what a woman's genitals should look like. In real life woman's genitals are much more messy, sloppy, hanging, fleshy, sticking out, bumpy, uneven, colored and rough. Every day millions of women get over themselves and realize that sex is for pleasure and making babies. Not a display of your genitals. Your boyfriend does not carry a photo of your genitals with him but a picture of your face. He does not stay with you because of the way your genitals look but because he love your personality.

So just stop your nonsense and get over yourself already. He does not care about your genitals. He cares for you, the person and how you make him feel.

Nobody else can do it for you. You are the only one that can deal with your own feelings. If you do not get over yourself, you are going to lose your boyfriend. Men does not like insecure women.
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replied February 5th, 2011
you are totally right... but how am i suppose to makes these feelings go away, it feels like i cant escape it.
i know it is unfair for him, this is why i feel like i will be alone because i cant get over it.
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replied March 22nd, 2011
Dear Perpulsoul, I had a nice well thought out reply typed out. It was even spelled correctly. Unfortunatley, I am new to this site and it didn't post correctly. too much to type it all again, but listen to the main point. I find a large clitoris very exciting. very! I am really sorta amazed that what I find so exciting has you feeling so ashamed and unattractive.I have a wonderfull fiancee -so I am not trying to be disrespectfull to you or her. I just hate for any one to sit and worry about the exact thing that I think is so amazing. Just want to help- I know love is the most important and the sense of loyalty and commitment, but you will turn plenty of guys on just with the extra size you were blessed with. I just thought you might want to hear a honest mans opinion
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replied July 22nd, 2011
Your only issue is self perception. I LOVE big clits! You may need counseling.
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replied August 28th, 2011
I suspect this is not what you want to hear but ...
Please see a psychotherapist or psychologist. Your anxiety seems to be fixated on a large clitoris. It maybe that you simply have a specific anxiety or generalized and are just currently focused on your clitoris.
Counselling will help you control and shift your thoughts and feelings about your clitoris. CBT and EFT are 2 types of therapy that may be useful.
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replied January 2nd, 2014
I too for years felt embarrassment at my large clit. Met my husband he loves it all protrudes out 3 inches and is 2 inch circumference. I was called fat in front in jr high . I found out from my mom runs in our family. The males tall and well hung. My 3 sons have above average members too and large feet. I am proud of my large clit ots the way I am made. Many sites you can access see pictures of large clitorous.
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