5 and yes, I tell the truth. I think its a bad trait to have to immediately commence any relationship in a lie.

Only my husband and that is the truth!!!!

i've gotten rude comments when i was in my early 20's when i was dating. (11 years ago)

my son's father said 'i can't believe you let all those guys run up in you like that". and he slept with just as many women. this hurt me a lot.

i had another b/f that told me he met a girl that had 10 guys, and he said "and she expects me to marry her"!!!!!!!
i just looked at him, b/c i didnt reveal the # of men i've been with to him.

so my luck number was always 3.

i usually would tell a guy that i m not telling him, and my past is my past. if they want me to get tested for anything, fine. but i keep it to myself, some guys are judgmental.

my current b/f is 51 years old, he is very mature, and i told him the truth. and his response to me was "you told me, fine, but dont tell anyone else".
so my number is............i dont know!!!!!!!!!!!!
more than 5, but less than 20. it makes me feel bad thinking about it so i stop counting.
i've done all my dirt in 10 years ago.

I'm 28 and I've been with 17 guys. 17!!! Not proud of it whatsoever. But, if you really think about it, 10 years of sex, thats 1.7 guys per year. I don't have any STDs so I think "don't ask, don't tell" is the best thing for someone in my situation. If someone I really cared about HAD to know though, I'd tell him the truth. If he really cared about me, it wouldn't matter, and vice versa.

While I would like to think that people were honest enough and mature enough to handle knowing how many people their partner had been with, I have to agree with jlp890 and say, "Don't ask, don't tell." Unfortunately, knowing the number does change a person's opinion of another. The only reason a person should be concerned about the number of partners soemone has had is if they could possibly have an STD/ STI. If the person gets a clean bill of health, there should be no further discussion. if they stilll insist on knowing, they only want to know the number because it says something about the person's character. If they're willing to hold a person's past against them, telling them can do nothing but cause problems.

I just don't understand this need some partners have to know the number. It would seem to me that the only information a partner really needs is weather your a virgin or not and weather your STD free. All the rest really doesn't pertain to your current relationship.

It's sad to say but even in this day and age, it STILL matters to most men how many partners their woman has had. This is never going to change. The only thing that has changed is that now women are having more partners than ever before. It may be lableled as "equal rights," but in all honestly, most of the woman I have talked to are ashamed to admit they have had many men sexually than not. This says alot about our culture and the way we have been taught to think down through the generations. When it comes to sex, men, who are fine with spreading themselves around don't want the same in the woman they plan to spend their life with. Not fair, but it's a reality.

I guess I am just different that way. I agree with the don't ask don't tell. Having said that tho, if you ask you better dang well really want to know the answer and be adult enough to deal with it. I wouldn't lie about my number but I wouldn't "pay" for it in a current relationship.

Whenever anyone asks my how many guys or how many people I've slept with I tell them four. I explain that the woman I slept with before was my 4th and that would make the man or woman I sleep with after them the 4th. If they complain I just tell them 4 is a great number. They can accept that I have enough experience to be a good lover to them but not be intimidated for whatever reason because I'm too much for them, It's much better than the number they're pushing for and they should take it and be happy with it.

Lucky number 1

Better to tell your number, if I was considering a girl for long term i would liked to know. If I didnt like the number I would be equally honest and tell her to move on.

Personally, if she lied and I found out later I would leave her not because of the number but because she lied.

Besides, these days guys are very good at telling if the girl looks the type who had alot of experience.

At the end it all comes down to the person some care some dont, some have different standards.

i lost my virginity with my first boyfriend when I was 17 who I was with from when I was 15 - 19.

I'm nearly 21 and have slept with 7 guys.

I'm not proud of it and I get worried to sleep with more people because if the number grows people are really judgemental about it. it's fine for a guy to have slept with lots of girls but not the other way around.

After my boyfriend of four years left me, I was an absolute mess. I had a few casual flings going with guys {never more than one at once} 3 casual flings over the year that we broke up. {after we broke up.} that i'd convinced myself were going to turn into relationships... iwas pretty disillusional.

then this year i've had one boyfriend for a few months who i slept with.

i was pretty upset after we broke up n got drunk out clubbing with one of my best friends and we got very drunk and ended up sleeping together that night.

that was a few months ago, n my 7th guy was also a drunken encounter. my best friend's neighbour, i went out to the pub with he boughgt me a lot of drinks n yeah...

whenever a guy asks, i feel like i have to explain this to make sure they don't think i'm a bad person. i never lie about it because i want to be honest, but the 'number' always worries me and I worry what they will think of me.

I have only slept with 1 but i have had a bunch of guys bt the one i have slept with I am still with and he is the only one I have been tempted to sleep with without any help from him like my exs

Yea theres nothing you can do about the past, if a man can't except you then YOU TELL HIM to move on. I would suggest to any woman though to keep it as a prized posession. When you give it out like that, its just not good for your mental health. Thats my take on it anyway.

Honestly, it shouldn't matter how many girls/guys a person has been with but people are curious. I've always said if guy can sleep with a bunch of girls, then why can't girls do the same? How the hell does it make us whores and guys seem like they're awesome. I, myself have always wanted to be like Samantha from Sex and the City, but I've honestly only been with one guy and that's my current boyfriend of almost a year.