Joined: 27 Jul 2007 Posts: 71 Location: New York, United States
Lady or Tramp Posted: 03-24-08 15:57pm
Ok basically, from you guys, I want to
know how can you tell if a girl is someone
you can take home to mother or just a
"tramp" (to be polite) What qualites does
the girl have to have to be considered the
one you would take home to meet mom.
And another thing is I would like some
adivce/thoughts on this situation: Me and
my current boyfriend have known each other
since we were about 11-12 years old. Hes
been asking me out since we were in about
6th or 7th grade and I havent given him
the chance until now (11th grade) We've
been going together for 3 months now and
we only had sex 2 times. The first time
was when he took my virginity. One day we
were talking about sex and he said to me
(after I insinuated wanting to be intimate
again) that there comes a time in every
mans life when he realizes that sex isnt
everything and he learns to cool out a
bit. And for him this is that time. Also
how does a male feel when he takes a girls
virginity?
He's 17 yrs old - is that normal for him
to say?
And since hes been trying since we were
children, would I be considerd a Lady (one
he can take home to mom) and would his
feeling be genuine for me since he knows
my family etc (he also always talks about
us in the future like when we're older we
can do this or that or when we have
children together . . . and other things)
If you have any questions just ask. I hope
I was clear enough in my post - I just
want to hear some thoughts! Thanks
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Galaxy
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Posted: 03-24-08 16:12pm
Never mind this 'lady or tramp' nonsense -
I think what you are asking is, does he
still respect you after he has slept with
you? It is hard to say without seeing the
two of you together but from what you say
he says, it does sound like he does. He
is still talking futures and children
together so ... what do you think?
As for not wanting to have sex just now,
well, again it is not entirely clear but
it sounds like he is concerned about
things like not getting pregnant and maybe
finishing school first before you get
bogged down with all of that.
I would advise maybe backing off slightly
and not being too intense about the sex
thing as some guys can become positively
scared by the 'intimacy' and 'coupleyness'
of it all. Let him come after you again -
don't go after him!
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Larlen
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Joined: 27 Jul 2007 Posts: 71 Location: New York, United States
Posted: 03-24-08 16:22pm
Thanks alot - and the Lady or the Tramp
thing is all I could come up with for the
topic (after seeing the ad for the DVD a
few minutes ago)
and with him saying about the sex thing,
he never really said anything about being
scared about pregnancy. The thing is we
live about 20 minutes apart but in
different areas in our city. We see each
other once or twice a week (at church and
when he gets the car at night) so we dont
really have all the time in the world for
intamacy. But I really like what you said
about letting him come to me again. I will
definatly take your advice and do that.
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Galaxy
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Posted: 03-24-08 18:12pm
It's the oldest
trick in the book!
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Galaxy
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Posted: 03-24-08 18:18pm
Oh, and you both have a live church
connection so it might just be the case
that he wants to wait a while longer
before getting into a committed sexual
relationship. I know you have had sex
before with him but maybe he has
reconsidered and wants to wait a while
longer. It sounds to me like that's what
he meant when he did the 'there comes a
time in every man's life ...' speech.
It's the oldest
trick in the book! 