I'm so sorry that you are dealing with so much and so much pain in just a few short months.
Please, if you ever feel that badly, you should call the suicide hot line right away.
As to your questions and your situation that you presented in your post, it is a bit confusing to understand what you have said.
I would be seriously questioning your present spine surgeon for many reasons.
You didn't say why you have had 5 spine surgeries since January 2009 and you haven't said what kind you have had.
First of all, from what you describe as to the spine fusion he is going to do, he should be removing the disc completely not leaving any of it behind.
If you are being told that this is your second staph infection you have picked up from spine surgery in the same location since January 2009, I would suspect that it really isn't 2 separate infections, but rather, the same infection that has not been cleared up.
Have you had surgery to clean out the infection that is existing you your surgical site?
If not, it sounds like you need to have the area surgically cleaned and then treated with IV antibiotics.
If you have had surgery to clean out the infection and are on a pic line now, I would think that you will have to wait more than 6 weeks before having any further surgery unless you need to have more surgery to clean out the infection.
Another point on infection in the surgical site area, if it has gotten to the bone, you are at far greater risk for developing infection in the surgical site with further surgery for a fusion.
Is there a reason you believe your spine surgeon needs to do a decompression and you have nerve pain from compressed nerves? Are you sure it is nerve compression in the same area that your spine surgeon is going to fuse?
Some or all of your pain could be coming from the infection as well. You might want to ask your spine surgeon about some nerve pain medication to get you through this difficult time and also an anti-depressant to help you feel better emotionally.
What kind of bladder functionality problems are you having and why have you asked for a referral.
Who did you ask to get a referral and what kind of doctor do you want a referral to see?
Is you spine surgeon aware of any bladder function issues that you are having? If not, you need to tell him/her about them as it may be related to you L5 spine issues.
As for the name of another spine surgeon to see, I don't think that you will find very many new spine surgeons that would be willing to see you under the present circumstances. You need to finish the round of antibiotics you are taking in the IV first, before any further surgery would be done, except to clean out the infected area or if your life where in danger.
If you can answer the above questions, there may be more of us that you give you some suggestions to help you.
What state do you live in
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