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If I give my boyfriend head, whether I swallow or not, or even if it's just as foreplay, he refuses to kiss me.
He is absolutely repulsed by my mouth for the rest of the night even if I drink water/ brush teeth or whatever!
Hmm, it's like when you go out of your way to show your affection for someone who claim they love you, but you end up feeling !**@! for the rest of the night. Is this kind of wrong? Or am I overreacting?
Opinionsss please?
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First Helper CDubya
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replied July 24th, 2010
Kissing after head
Hi...

Unfortunately, most men (and teens) feel the same way your boyfriend does. I'm not saying it's right - just that it's normal. Unless a man is gay, bi-sexual, or very, very comfortable with his sexuality, most men don't like the idea of tasting semen. I've been married for 30 years and when my wife gives me head to completion, it's almost impossible for me to kiss her mouth. I love her, but as a male, I see semen as something a WOMAN tastes, not a man.

Also, know this. Before a man cums he is very horny and may even PLAN to kiss a girl who gives him head. However, right after a man has an orgasm, he loses his horniness, and things that seemed hot before, no longer seem hot anymore - because he is no longer horny (at least for a time.)

A lot of men will tell their partners they are going to lick their vaginas AFTER they cum, because it sounds horny. However, when they do cum, their horniness is gone and they generally change their minds.

Please know that it has nothing to do with you! It's great that you are willing to give your boyfriend head and even swallow his cum. However, most guys are going to react the same way he does about kissing. It's kind of a guy thing. I was very surprised to find that my wife was willing to give me head AFTER we had intercourse and she had an orgasm. She was sucking HER juices as well as mine! For whatever reason, though, this is not as big of a deal to women as it is to men. I think a lot of young guys are afraid if they taste their own cum in a girl's mouth, it might make them seem gay or something. Anyway, it's not anything you are doing or not doing, and it's not just YOUR boyfriend. Most males are that way. Sorry. I hope this helps!
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replied July 25th, 2010
Thanks heaps (: That really does help. Just to know that it's not me, and that it's normal :/
I think unfortunately this means I'm gonna give head alot less though..
It makes sense about the horniness thing, kind of sucks though!
haha. Anyway thankyou for your opinion, I shouldn't have let it get me so upset!
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replied February 21st, 2012
No problem tasting my semen
I don't know what "normal" is, but that's NOT my reaction at all!!! I guess I'm just comfortable with my sexuality (in CDubya's words), but tasting traces of my own semen on my (female) lover's lips is not only not disgusting, it's a bit of a turn-on. (A big gulp my be something different, and I don't have any desire to taste another man's semen.) I can't say what you or your boyfriend should do, but I want you to know that you are both missing out on the special intimacy that comes after good sex. And I have to take issue with CDubya's assertion that men lose their horniness after orgasm - if the sex was good and the orgasm powerful, I'm at least as horny after as before. Apologies to CDub, but it sounds a bit like he's the kind of guy that's responsible for the stereotype of men rolling over and falling asleep right after sex. Doesn't have to be that way at all.
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replied July 26th, 2010
Poor guy... You should try to talk it out before giving it to him less... heh
But as for the explanation CDubya gave, it's spot on.
Overall as time passes by, depending on the openness of the partner, more likely then not the guy will refuse to have semen near his mouth.
However even after brushing your teeth and mouthwash, if he still refuses then this is potentially a serious fear... I'd talk to him about it and make some equal ground where he doesn't spaz and you don't gross him out.

As for the other side of the population, I can also vouch that kissing a girl that gives you head and swallows does make it taste like semen and can be... well... unpleasant. But I'm not going to be a hypocrit and act weird about it if she goes down on me after she comes during sex. Personally I find that hot.
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replied July 26th, 2010
I say if you want to kiss him after, then don't swallow it
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replied July 26th, 2010
=/ I'm sorry to hear this,I kiss my girlfriend after she swallows, and it doesn't really bother me any. I guess it's a preconceived notion that he could be tasting his own ejaculate. The best solution would be to talk it over, but if he is unwilling I guess he's S.O.L, if you wanna make more than give head.
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replied July 27th, 2010
I Feel if your boyfriend can give you head then kiss you after he dose it and dont have a problem kissing you then why is it a problem whit you giving him head then kissing him???????? Need Answer please
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replied July 27th, 2010
In most cases males are more afraid of their own "juices" and fear that any contact with it will emasculate them and make them gay.
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replied July 27th, 2010
I Have Tasted My Own "Cum" Before, Most Guys Think It's Quite Hot... I Think Your Boyfriend Needs A Reality Check Darling! =)
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replied August 30th, 2011
I think my "cum" tastes pretty nice, and i don't freak out when i taste myself on my boyfriend. I don't understand why guys make it a big deal. I like to know that it turns my guy on, but I don't mind regardless cause its not like it's another girls'. Same goes for guys, it's not like I'm asking you to taste another guys cum (see, that would be gay) from my mouth when I want to kiss you, it's yours! So what's the big deal?
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replied November 17th, 2012
I love it when my girlfriend and I snowball. I love it when she feeds me my cum during an erotic french kiss.
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replied July 28th, 2010
I Have too @ VickiWebb
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replied August 11th, 2010
Personally, I wouldn't give it to him then. Its a bit disrespectful that he accepts his semen in your mouth and not his. If he sees it as being poision then its rude for him to expect you to do it. Also, if he is clean it should not matter because he should be confident in kissing you after. So i also suggest in being sure he properly washes himself because he could be thinking "no way i know what i do or dont do with that" and not want it in his mouth. Let him know how you feel about him doing that. I could see how it would make you feel cheap and slutty, many people don't kiss prostitutes for what they do, but you are his woman, big difference. It pleases you when he kisses you after you guys have had sexual encounters. So its not fair for you to serve and please him and not have the favor returned. Take a stand don't let him run your sexuality it takes two and it should be a fair event. If he cant give a kiss which does not compare to oral sex, then maybe he just doesnt deserve it. Relationships are about compromise and finding a happy medium, sometimes a partner may have to step out of their element, but it should be done if whats being asked is within reason, and all you want is a kiss.
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replied September 2nd, 2011
i think it really depends on the person but i believe when you in a relationship with someone as long as you are giving head.. then you should both be 100% comfortable with each other and both your sexualitys
you should at least ask him to experiment and try it once if he dosent like it once then you shouldnt bother him again about it..
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replied September 2nd, 2011
i think it really depends on the person but i believe when you in a relationship with someone as long as you are giving head.. then you should both be 100% comfortable with each other and both your sexualitys
you should at least ask him to experiment and try it once if he dosent like it once then you shouldnt bother him again about it..
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replied September 5th, 2011
He has a problem. I'd kiss you! I'd worship at my wife's feet if she'd finish me orally.....
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replied September 5th, 2011
Sex is very intimate anyway. he shouldn't find kissing you after doing it a problem. You've just had intercourse. But Maybe you just shouldn't give him blow jobs anymore he sounds like hes being silly.
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replied November 17th, 2012
I also love to give my girlfriend oral after filling her with a nice load of cum. it is so erotic to taste both of our fluids mixed together.
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replied September 7th, 2011
I've heard guys talking about such things. "when she's sucking me, I can't help but look at her like a pig" "like she's trash"

My advice, please don't demean yourself by satisfying these assholes...
I have never had a girl like me enough to be so kind as to give me a loving gesture of giving head. The guys I know who get it the most are honestly the biggest pieces of shyt.

I wish girls had more sense, because a boy who gets you to blow him and won't kiss you, even after you brush your teeth, doesn't care about you and definitely doesn't love you. HE ONLY CARES ABOUT HIMSELF, AND HIS D%#*!

Why don't girls like boys who are sweet and gentle, like me? Guys like me, who have never experienced anything sexual, will not only appreciate your loving gesture, they will love you... and kiss you passionately for it.

I hope you listen to me, I'm not lying to you, I care about you all, and I hope the next time a shy boy approaches you, you don't just dismiss him and go after the jerks. Happiness is not being with a guy who knows how to BS you; it's being with a boy who doesn't know how... because HE will love you.
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replied September 8th, 2011
As an addendum, if my wife were to snowball me, I wouldn't get upset. How can I ask her to do what I would not?
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replied October 20th, 2011
well even afterr i give head to my boyfriend, he goes in to start kissing me? and i just turn my head away all the time..i don't think he cares.
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replied December 17th, 2011
Kissing after Oral sex
I find it HOT and enjoy kissing my wife DURING oral sex. Her mouth is so hot, and I'm soooo horny. We've been married 22 years and I don't have a problem with it at all. I just haven't gotten the urge to kiss her AFTER completion. I think it's that the horniness has gone away.....
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replied February 10th, 2012
My my my
Ladies .. It all depends.
Do not expect things with men to be the same ALL of the time. For example. I am absolutely repulsed by the smell of saliva. When getting head, the smell multiplies like crazy, especially messy/slurpy head. So when that happens, it's a bit of a turn-off if:
1) woman initiates by giving head, leaving her mouth smelling like something died in it.
2) Woman gives head with the intention of making me cum (I will mostly likely NOT be in the mood to do anything, let alone kiss - I love you, but you will indeed be getting fake kisses) Sorry, not a personality flaw, just nature, porn is acting.
3)Head is good for any man, but for me, vagina feels a thousand times better, plus..getting head doesn't put me in control...you can keep your head I'd rather have tight/wet woman on top any day.
4) When you give head, you're in control. Once you stop. I AM. So not only do you NOT try to kiss me, don't do anything, just follow my lead. I'll kiss you when I'm comfortable doing it.
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