Sorry that your relationship ended, cry if you want to don't bottle your feelings pm me if you want to talk - Hart74

I mean how can a person know someone for so long and still do something like that to them?

I feel so used

What a sad and terrible story! I would stay away from this guy...he definitely doesn't have your best interests in mind and he's a real jerk to just drop you like that. That's the funny thing with people though, you never know what will happen. I bet you really do feel used!! Sometimes you can know someone for a long time and still know actually nothing about them. It happens more often than you think.

Do have a good cry about it. It will make you feel better.

As for next time you date: don't make yourself easy. I may be stating the obvious for you now, but don't make yourself and easy target or cheap. I know you don't have your virginity anymore, but that doesn't mean you can't keep yourself reserved for someone who deserves you. People don't value what sex really is anymore, and that is showing a mutual love for each other. Get to know the person really well at a one on one basis...date for real before you allow any sort of physical contact. Waiting and being sure as a result of waiting and finding out what the other persons soul is like is so much worth the time of a good relationship, and you won't get hurt like this besides.

I'm truly sorry this happened to you and hope you feel better about it soon.

so you guys think I shouldnt talk to him at all anymore? Im going to church on sunday and he will be there . . .

My Birthday is is a few days and he said hes still going to buy me something because he told me he will always be here and friends buy things for their friends on their birthdays . . .

Im on the inside of the box I only see the walls - someone on the outside tell me whats best for me to do

Every gift means something. You should not accept gifts from him when he's treated you this way...accepting it means that everything is ok between the two of you and its not. Friends don't do things like that to friends....use them and then leave them in the dust, alone.

You need to not talk to him and sever all connections so that he realizes what a mistake his made and what a jerk he is. There are other guys out there that wouldn't think of doing anything like he has for one second......and you need to find guys like that. They are there, you just have to be patient.

Oh by the way, I was just reading your first post again, and I wanted to comment on that phrase "he knows we will get back together in the future". How presumptuous is that??? After he did this to you, why shouldn't this be something that he does again? If you deserver better than him now, you will deserve better than him later! And I certainly agree with him there!

SO you are supposed to just sit around and wait for him to experience new things and enjoy relationships with other people (sleeping around and being a Casanova).....does that seem like he really care about how you feel, your life, your happiness?? Does this mean that you have to hold off on possible relationships or drop them when he finally decides you are worth it to come back again when he's tired of fooling around??

You need to be mad sister....really mad. And let him know it and drop him like the friend he ISN'T.

Sorry for you.

You need a big brother to kick his ass. He is just using you and does not care for you at all. His friend will now ask you out just to get in your pants. Do not go out with him or his friends at all. He is not your friend and is bad mouthing you to everyone. Do not talk to him or take anything from him at all. Keep away from him and his friend. Do not even say hello to him. Make him know you are pissed out. I would love to kick his ass for you. Jack

Same here!

Thanks alot guys - I still didnt have my cry yet. I just cant wait until this is all a memory.

Sunday when I go to church I'll walk right past him - he missed out on a really good thing.

Maybe hes the one who wants to go play the feild

So far he's still IMing me and I do admit to chatting with him but soon I wont answer him more and more I just want to get used to not talking to him anymore - I mean we did used to chat everyday.

He keeps telling me that he loves me and he will help me through this and he knows we will get back together and he wants to be a friend to me - more like a best friend.

It really helps to talk about it and hear what you guys have to say. (Sigh)

Ugh girl, I can't believe this jerk! I know it's easier for me to say and probably really hard for you to do, but you really do need to tell him how it is and dump his sorry little hindy on the corner. I just can't believe that he can be so full of himself that he can't see what a jerk he is!!

I mean all of us here want to kick his little runt rump into the next galaxy...how can you still be IMing him when we aren't even the ones that have been hurt by him?

Anyways, it is your life and no one is ordering you to do anything, we just see a lot of people come and go here and history repeats itself if you know what I mean. Do come back and vent whenever you need to. I'm always here for you if you need me too and PM me any time.

No he IMs me and I chat too so Im just as bad - but I will stop talking to him. I just have to get used to not chatting to him everyday like we did for all these years (remember we were friends before this)

Ok I will PM and we can talk more. I dont wanna seem like an ediot - I will stop talking to this jerk. My final test will be on Sunday. All the teens sit together I wont sit near him and after church he usually stands where I have to walk past him and I will. I'll act as if I dont even see him!

And after I do that - Ill surely move on with my life - he will never have my heart or the chance to hurt it again!

Darn right girl. Thats the attitude to have. I know how hard this is but it has to be done in order for you to move on. I was in a similiar situation. My guy was cheating on me and left me for the girl he was cheating on. But I kept going back because I truly loved him. I couldnt see life without him. I hoped that he would see how much better I was and stay with me. Needless to say they now have a baby together. But it took me three years of pain and humiliation to finally realize. Im saying this because love is blind and it can make you say and do things you normally wouldnt. But if you want to save yourself these bad feelings then just let him go. One day you may be able to be friends but your heart doesnt deserve to be put through the ringer by him. Try to ignore him and brush him off. This will be the ultimate pay back. He needs to fully realize his mistake. But some men never do. JUst think of yourself first. WIll you cry at night for him after you pretend to be friends all day? Will it hurt your heart to know hes flirting with other girls? WIll he even care or notice how you are feeling? If the answer is no then keep your space. But please keep posting and PM me anytime you want. Once I finally got over this guy I found the man of my dreams (who was right inf front of me all the time, I was just too wrapped up in a loser)

Best wishes girl and hang in there. You are strong enough to get over him even if it seems impossible right now.

I really feel 100% better with all you guys stepping in and taking the time to reply to my post. Im not the first girl here who has gotten dumped but you guys still are willing to help me get trough it.

WIll you cry at night for him after you pretend to be friends all day?

No I just feel like the love part is gone and we're just friends . . . I feel nochalant about it. And in a way it kind of comforts me to talk to him which is bad he cant have any more power over me. But like I said after sunday when I see him in person one last time I will move on or begin to the best I could. Starting with not talking to him. Then I will remove him from myspace and so on . . .


Will it hurt your heart to know hes flirting with other girls?

Yea I would be offened if he says I like someone a few months from now (we wont be talking!) But just saying, yea. I was jelous of his ex girlfriend. He said he stoped talking to her and that was true (my snooping around proved that to me - LOL)

WIll he even care or notice how you are feeling?

He says he still loves me. That he saw that I was changing because of him and he didnt like how I was changing because of him. (I admit sex was a new thing to me and it just have might changed me) He also says he wants to be a best friend to me and we will get together in the future because its our faith. And I should TRUST him (yea right) that it will happen.

Im just ready to forget this whole thing and find the right guy for me. Someone who wont ever do something like this to me and would love me just as much as I loved . . .

And even before I get caught up in a friendship with him then he cuts me off from that too! Im not gonna be made a fool again!!!

Good. I think you are on the right track. And best of all you answered all those questions. JUst stay true to yourself and you will get through anything. Only you know whats best. Put some space in between you and then see where your at in a couple of months . The more you know yourself the better off you will be.

And no you arent the 1st girl on here, but just remember we have all been there once or twice oursleves.....

Just an update for you all who have been reading, I'm doing fine emotionally and its almost sunday - our 1st face to face encounter again since him dumping me. I'll be back as soon as it happens and let you all know how it went.

well he said hello and I said hello and he tried to have a conversation (walking with me towards the direction I go home to) but I just laughed weakly at whatever it was he said and kept walking.

Ive decided I dont want to be friends with him either. Friends just dont hurt friends the way he did - someones emotions with love are very sensitive and a friend wouldnt think about breaking anothers heart or hurting them in anyway.

that is as true as it gets. Im sorry that you had to learn this lesson, but trust me you are better off. And just think of all the knowledge and experience you have gained. You are better prepared for relationships and sex. Never forget that you are valuable and lovable. There will be a man that will be everything you need and want. Its worth waiting for. Best wishes to you.