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Q: Just in me for sex?

asked by: jems on August 10th, 2009

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If a guy were just wanting to have sex with me he would've been carrying a condom with him when he knew we may be fooling around right?
My boyfrind and I have been dating for about a month and we do fool around, we have not had sex yet but we were going to, neither of us had a condom.
Since then his one friend has been bugging me and telling me my boyfriend has been bragging to him about the sex we've apparently had. This made me wonder if my boyfriend really likes me or if he just wants to sleep with me and then ditch.
This doesn't all line up to me, his friend is really annoying and before my bf and I started dating he tried to date me, so I cant tell if his friend is just trying to bother me or if it is really true. and if it were true dont you think my bf would have been carrying a condom on nights he knew we were going to be fooling around?
Sorry if this is confusing I hope it makes enough sense tho.
Jems

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W0LF

replied on August 10th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

Hey jems
I'm guessing given some of the things you posted that you're at an age where you should be worrying a lot less about this. The boys you are dating are not yet at a point where it matters why they are into you. You don't need them to be committed to you and even if their intentions are what you'd like them to be, they're not really in control of their sexuality. It's like getting huffy with a dog because you think they only love you for the food you give them.

Your teenage years are really better invested enjoying the time you spend with boys than trying to understand it. Love boys, do things your comfortable with, don't do things you're not comfortable with. Stop looking for things to worry about. You'll have more of those then you can handle in just a few years.

jems

replied on August 10th, 2009

New User

lol I am old enough to worry about stuff like this, I've just always been the little virgin girl, you know the one that didn't understand most of the sexual jokes cause she was really that innocent lol. I am just trying to gain a general knowledge of everything before I dive in too deep.

W0LF

replied on August 10th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

Sorry jems

Far from the first time I've misguessed someone's age. However I do stand by the advice. If you put off taking care of some of the business that most people deal with in their teens then you should give yourself permission to enjoy this. Just like love, sex is one of those things where focusing and obsessing about doing it right often makes things harder for you. Worry less about this guys motives and enjoy spending time with him.

jems

replied on August 10th, 2009

New User

That is really silly to appologise for lol. (even in person people think I am much younger...which is funny cause I filled out nicely through jr & sr high lol) I worked in an Kindergarten-grade 9 school for the past two years and was often mistaken for a student lol.

I have to say that is probably the best advice I've gotten, I guess I watched all of my friends obsess over their relationships even when I really didn't care. And I was almost always the go to person cause I gave my honest no bull crap oppinion on everything.

So between my friends delemas and advice and my advice I lost track of the whole enjoying all the experiences we will have together.

Jems

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