We have been married a year now, been dating 5 years. I would find him looking at gay porn sites or responding to ads on craigslist and he said he was just seeing how far men would go and than stop. This week, i found out more. Not only has he been cheating on me our whole relationship with men, he has done the same 3 times since we've been married. He said its a pleasure/need he gets that needs to be fulfilled. And he's not attracted to them. But!! I also learned he was raped at 11 years old and that didn't stop til he was 16 and he's just kept doing it since. That he just needs to. I don't know what to do. I want to stay and help him and i really love him, but it hurts knowing he cheated. He said he's going to stop cold-turkey because he doesnt want me to leave him but im scarred it will happen again
I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot even say that I know what you are going through, because I can't. I cannot even imagine what it will be like.
You have the right to reevaluate your commitment to him. This is not the man you married. You married a heterosexual man that promised to love you, and just you. What you have now is a cheating husband, he is not hetrosexual and he put your health at risk without any regards for your safety.
That does not mean you have to leave him, or that you have to stay with him. Only you can make that decision. You have to figure out if you can ever trust him again, and if you think he really want to be with only you. If you need help, find a therapist, either for you alone, or for you as a couple. You deserve to get professional help.
Please have an STD screening done as soon as possible.