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Jealousy Posted: 04-16-08 22:58pm
I've always been a tiny bit jealous of
other people. I used to hate life, a heck
of a lot but recently life had started to
make a turn around. I guess you could say
during high school there was a tiny bit of
jealousy between my classmates and I.
Mostly because they all had money, they
were more financially fit then my family.
I never showed it, cause I always had
designer clothes, brand name shoes, and
bought lunch every day. But these were
all presents, to me.
I had problems getting my drivers license
(G2). I fail the first two times and my
parents wouldn't let me drive the car or
let me do the test again. Getting my
drivers licese was always my dream, and
meant the world to me. A fair of
classmates had gotten their G2 license and
I guess you could say I was very jealous.
I hate it, that they had their and I
didn't have mine. That they were driving
down their parents cars to school and I
wasn't.
I also was having problems with school,
and my parents wouldn't address the
situation. Others who were having the
same problem, got their parents to start
to address the situation.
Anywho, things started to look up after
the summer. I went to college in
September, got my G2, started driving all
the time.
My parents just put me on the car
insurance 2 months ago and hate hate
giving me the car. When I want to go
somewhere I need permission from my dad.
And what does he tell me, "Wait till your
mother comes home and go together" whats
the point of having insurance then?
Anwyays I wanted to get my own car and
they wouldn't let me. They don't believe
in me either, but I guess thats besides
the point. Now my co workers, younger
then me, are buying cars, their parents
loaning them the cars without a hassle,
and it really bugs me.
I guess all I will ever be is a jealous
guy. Is this normal for me or not?
P.S. I'm 18
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-17-08 23:20pm
bump +1
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lil_scorpio
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Posted: 04-18-08 18:58pm
I think you're just feeling left out,
right? Like it seems that everybody is
doing things that you're not, or they get
to some milestone before you do. I think
it's normal to a certain degree. Everybody
has a green-eyed monster come out once in
awhile, the thing is, you should overcome
it (jealousy) with being thankful for what
you do have. I grew up much the same way,
poor actually, and I was a little envious
of the girls who had nice clothes, name
brand shoes and new cars. I learned to be
happy for what I DO have, and I worked
really hard for the things that I wanted.
Working really hard for something makes it
even sweeter when you get it! Rather than
being jealous, be proud! Maybe you can
work out something with your parents about
a car. You say that you have a job, maybe
you can save some money for a car and your
parents can match what you have saved.
It's worth a shot!
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-18-08 23:05pm
lil_scorpio
wrote:
I think you're just feeling
left out, right?
I guess so. Like I feel left out a lot of
time but your right I am feeling left out.
But I guess jealousy does come in to play
as well.
lil_scorpio
wrote:
that everybody is doing
things that you're not, or they get to
some milestone before you do.
Exactly, thats what happening. Things I
had planned and was supposed to be doing,
are not happening. Everyone else seems to
be doing them way before me.
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-18-08 23:10pm
greekjohn
wrote:
lil_scorpio
wrote:
I think you're just feeling
left out, right?
I guess so. Like I feel left out a lot of
time but your right I am feeling left out.
But I guess jealousy does come in to play
as well.
lil_scorpio
wrote:
that everybody is doing
things that you're not, or they get to
some milestone before you do.
Exactly, thats what happening. Things I
had planned and was supposed to be doing,
are not happening. Everyone else seems to
be doing them way before
me.
lil_scorpio
wrote:
you should overcome it
(jealousy) with being thankful for what
you do have.
I'm very very thankful for what I have.
I've always been.
lil_scorpio
wrote:
Maybe you can work out
something with your parents about a car.
You say that you have a job, maybe you can
save some money for a car and your parents
can match what you have saved. It's worth
a shot!
They don't want me to get a car. Even
though I'm 18 they still want to control
me.
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ParkerYoung
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oh well Posted: 04-21-08 23:15pm
Oh well... what can you do... you could
always save up and buy a car anyways...
your 18! just show up one day with a car.
. .
NOTE:
Getting permission would be the right
thing to do, but if they still say no go
for it!
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greekjohn
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Posted: 04-21-08 23:34pm
i dont just want to go a head and make a
huge purchase like that without them. as
well all know its not going to be a new
car, its going to be a second hand
vehilce. but what bugs me more is why
they dont want me to be driving by myself.
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hmm Posted: 04-22-08 00:57am
well tell them that you accept the fact
that they wont let you... but you dont
agree with it.... they will probably ask
why and you can go from there... Go into
the conversation with a positive attitude,
show them that your ready to pay for gas
to get around and that you can pay for
some insurance if you have to... come up
with a plan with set goals and present
that to them...
If you show them you are responsible then
maybe they will let you drive alone.
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lil_scorpio
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Posted: 04-22-08 18:29pm
greekjohn
wrote:
but what bugs me more is
why they dont want me to be driving by
myself.
Maybe you can somehow show them that you
would be responsible enough to drive by
yourself....you haven't done anything to
prove differently have you? Parents are
strange sometimes, maybe it's not that
they don't trust you, maybe it's that they
don't want to let go of you. Like if you
get your own vehicle and you're out all
the time, maybe they'll feel like their
loosing you somehow. Have you talked to
your parents yet, to try to see why they
feel the way they do? You might be
suprised....
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lil_scorpio
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Posted: 04-22-08 18:30pm
You can PM me if you want, it's hard to
find come back to this thing to see if
you've answered! =)
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greekjohn
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Posted: 05-02-08 23:53pm
I have not really have had a conversation
with them about this topic. I have tried
to talk about it, we touched upon the
topic throughout many other conversations.
The answer ended up being "just because"
"just because I said so"
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lil_scorpio
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Posted: 07-09-08 20:45pm
It's been a couple of months, I wonder how
have things been going with you and your
parents, any thing new?
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