Well, it's sort of my first relationship, so I'm new to this kind of thing, but he's not. Hell, I was new to the whole "Liking guys" thing as well, but that's not really the point here.
Well, I'm guessing this is because I'm so new to it, but I'm rather nervous about it. I mean, he's jumped right into certain acts (sexually, hand/blowjob), and while they caught me off guard, I did enjoy. Now my problem comes that... it's taking me a while to work myself up to say... returning the favor for him.
I'm starting to feel bad because of that... I mean, I feel like I really do care about him, and I want to please him too, but I know that it's going to take some time for me to work my way up to something like what he's done. He doesn't say anything about wanting something like that in return. He simply does it for me without a care in the world.
I guess what I'm asking for is some advice on the matter. I know what I feel I should do... but any advice would be helpful.
If you want to return the favor then just do it.If he acts freaky about it you can always stop..even though I cant imagine him not wanting you to return the favor..do you 2 kiss and cuddle or is it just a friendly sexy thing going on? Is it turning to love or just a good time? I say do what makes you feel good as long as you both are into it and safe...oh,and what about talking to him about this?
1. We do kiss and cuddle and whatnot. I guess I'll clear something up here. We'd had an interesting relationship for at least a few months before the "dating" became official. Sort of an "experimentation" thing on my part, and he was helping me with opening up more. I started to develop some attachment to him, and we talked about it and it ended up being an official "dating" thing. He's the person I can talk to, confide in, pretty much the person I trust the most.
2. It's more than a good time... and at least on my end, I think it might be turning into love... granted, I guess I can't really say that, since I don't have experience in relationships, or love for that matter, but that's the way it feels to me.
3. And yeah, I want to return the favor, I just feel bad that it's taking me time to work up to it. Like I said, I've never been in a relationship before this, and never been this close to someone. I feel like I would do all the wrong things, or screw up... and I feel so bad about it.
4. I've said that I've wanted to do it... was rather blunt... and said I was working my way up to it... and he seemed fine with it. I guess I'm being paranoid about taking so long... I wish I could just do it without a second thought...
Hey ThatRandomGuy123 and Gemma as well I guess
Your best resource for learning how to please your partner is right in front of you. Your boyfriend is eager, supportive and someone you already trust implicitly. Next time you're together tell them you want them to teach you how to give them a blowjob. They won't judge you if you're a little clumsy. I think you'll find that it's a lot more intimidating than it is difficult. If you feel that you don't even know where to begin try reading up on blowjobs before you ask them for help, the internet is ripe with blowjob advice, both good and bad, but just learning more about what people suggest might help your nervousness about the topic.