i guess I'm labeled as a lesbian, because I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years now. I am not into labels myself, I just like what I like. I have never been with a guy but I'm only 20 so there's still hope. My girlfriend & I were going through a rough patch so instead of cheating on her with a guy OR a girl, i started watching porn. Straight porn & lesbian porn just wasn't doing it for me, so I tried gay porn & it turned me on soo much. Also I should have it known that when I have sex dreams, I'm normally a guy. I like being a woman, so a sex change has never occurred to me. SO I just want to know is this normal?
If you're not into labels I don't understand why you're concerned about whether or not this is 'normal'. I guess it would not be normal for a lesbian to be aroused by two men having sex. Do you have any other bisexual tendencies? Have you ever been attracted to a man before
I think its normal for you.we are all different. Like deteragram says,how can you be in a lesbian relationship if you aren't into girls? Thats strange...lesbians and gay men porn don't seem to go together.As a gay guy,I wouldn't be turned on by 2 women having sex.I have seen lesbian and straight porn and it does absolutely nothing for me.
If I were you I wouldn't worry about it unless it is effecting you and your girlfriend.If you don't consider yourself lesbian,how is it possible for you to have sex and a long term emotional relationship with a woman? Just curious..and does she know?
maybe you are confused about your sexual identity if you are dreaming you are a gay man..maybe you are trans at heart??? I don't know..this is a tough question..I hope you can work it out.let me know if I can help in any way.
Well, i don't want to know if its normal because I'm trying to identify myself, however I did get into a huge argument with my best friend because he doesn't think this is normal at all. My girlfriend knows that I like guys, but I've stayed with her because I love her. Also unfortunately the world we live in gives us all labels, so if I were to stay with my girlfriend I would be labeled as a lesbian, because no one has seen me with a man.
Yes, society likes to put everything into little packages because it makes the world easier to understand. But not everyone fits into a pre-set package (in fact, a lot of people don't).
People see you as a lesbian now because you are in a relationship with a woman. If tomorrow you broke up and you started dating a man, the world would see you as straight.
It's like if you saw a guy standing on the street corner dressed as a police officer. That's what the world will see him as. He may also be a father, or a juggler, or a volunteer at a soup kitchen, or a painter, or a war veteran. People who don't know him don't see that. They just see the uniform.
My point is, don't worry about labels of people who don't know you.
Why do you mind being labeled a lesbian? Would you like it any better to be labeled straight or bisexual?
As for the whole porn thing, don't worry about it. I wouldn't say it's "usual" or "common," but if something's not "normal" makes it sound like is bad. Just because you like something unexpected doesn't make it a bad thing. It's only a bad thing if it bothers you or your girlfriend, then it might be something to work out and understand. I think your best friend needs to open his mind a bit.
My only concern about djh0m1eelll's reluctance to use labels is this: djh0m1eelll is in a relationship with someone that deserves to know if djh0m1eelll is into men or women or both. I'm sure it makes a HUGE difference to her partner. djh0m1eelll doesn't have to call herself gay, straight, bi, trans or a two headed alien but she does need to let her girlfriend know about this new attraction she has. Avoiding a label won't change this fact or make her strictly lesbian.
Sorry, just the "Adam and Steve" thing just brought out the mockery for me. I'm not a lesbian, but I think that people should be able to live their lives without people reacting to them that way. It's terrible to use the Bible as a basis to hate or debase people. It isn't right.
In any case, she was asking if liking to watch (male) gay porn was normal. She didn't ask if her attraction to women was normal.
I am sorry if I started or continued something here and made the board less enjoyable for anyone else. It isn't like I can really change anyone's mind. That has to come from within.
Agreed, Lydia. Some people are simply looking for an excuse to get on their soap boxes and spout off about the Great Sin Of Homosexuality. The question was cleary about whether or not it's normal for a lesbian to be aroused by gay male porn, NOT whether or not it is normal to be gay.
I hope the rabid dogs haven't scared djh0m1eelll off.
I consider myself gender neutral, (some call it pangender etc etc) anyway, I find gay porn rather amusing and find it normal. I have been in a relationship with a woman or two ^_^ although watching gay porn or lesbian porn is all I can watch.