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March 31st, 2009
I have always loved being with women but everytime I get a boyfriend, he either wants to have a sexual relationship with the girl I'm with or he wants me to stop messing with women altogether. To me, having a relationship with a female and having a relationship with a male are two different things and make me feel two completely different ways. I don't feel complete unless I can be with a girl. Now my current boyfriend, whom I'm completely in love with, doesn't like the idea of it at all. He sees it as cheating. He just barely agreed to a 3some (and I only offered because I'm that desperate to be with a girl) and I couldn't handle it. So now, my problem is that he said that he would never want to be with or love anyone other than me and that is not how I feel. Is there something wrong with me why I cant just love him? Am I sick for needing to be with a girl even though I have someone who loves me very much? Or am I selfish for trying to 'have my cake and eat it, too?' What's the point of having a cake if you can't eat it?
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homerx
replied April 1st, 2009
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nothing wrong with being bi...nothing at all....
To thine own self be true..if you are bi then find a man and woman that can relate and appreciate your sexuality and not be threatened by it..real love has no judgment..
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diamondsz
replied April 6th, 2009
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What do you really want?? Do what you want, if you want to be with a woman be with a woman, trust me it will make you happier. If he really doesn't agree with it then maybe you need to leave but in the end "to each their own."
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Ichigos_Passion
replied April 30th, 2009
There's nothing wrong with you. Not really. If he loves you that much, personally I think he should be accepting of anything. If you want to be with a woman, but also be with him, I think he should let you. I'm sure that, if he wanted to be with a man, AND with you, you'd let him, right?
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starship33
replied May 3rd, 2009
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first of all if you had a girlfriend and when you first meet a guy you tell them "i feel this way, i have a g/f, tell me now if you have a problem"
if your up front in the beginning you shouldn't have any problems.
it's possible that you can find someone that was okay with it, develop feelings for you, and not be okay with it any more.
it's so many guys who would love to be in that situation.
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spanishfly
replied June 1st, 2009
To: Ichigos, I absolutely would as long as we discussed it at the beginning. To everyone: Thanks so much for writing but now...even though he has attempted to be 'more understanding' about it (especially since he got something out of it, too) we're broken and trying to decide if it's even worth it to try and fix.
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DeleteThisProfilePlease
replied June 1st, 2009
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Just because you're bi and you want to be with someone of each sex, it doesn't mean you should expect both to accept it. Some people want to be in committed relationships. I'm actually gender-blind and I don't see the difference between wanting to be with one man and one woman and wanting to be with two men or two women. It is cheating if the person has a problem with you seeing someone else, regardless of gender.
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homerx
replied June 1st, 2009
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NeutralUsername wrote:
It is cheating if the person has a problem with you seeing someone else, regardless of gender.
yep
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