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Can you please give me advice on what you see in those links please? I am at a cross roads in not knowing if she is or if she is saying just to trap me.

I called her doctors office today and the nurse said she wasn't a member of that clinic. She said for proof, that doctor would send me confirmation in the mail. That is why I called.

Her mom even says she doesn't look pregnant. She has lied in the past, and I was wondering if more experienced folks could tell. She should be beginning her seventh month now. Thank you.
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replied June 20th, 2008
why dont you buy her a pregnancy test and make her pee infront of you and you see for urself?
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replied June 20th, 2008
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Her doctor's office cannot give you any information about her. Thats what hipaa laws are about - medical privacy. Why don't you go to the doctor with her?

Those pictures don't mean anything. They don't mean pregnancy, although by the looks of them, it appears she is 7 or 8 months pregnant.

Tell her, straight out, if you don't have proof, you'll assume she is lying. At that point, do not speak to her, don't take her phone calls, etc. She'll come up with some proof or admit it is a lie.
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replied June 20th, 2008
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Her doctor's office cannot give you any information about her. Thats what hipaa laws are about - medical privacy. Why don't you go to the doctor with her?

Those pictures don't mean anything. They don't mean pregnancy, although by the looks of them, it appears she is 7 or 8 months pregnant.

Tell her, straight out, if you don't have proof, you'll assume she is lying. At that point, do not speak to her, don't take her phone calls, etc. She'll come up with some proof or admit it is a lie.
Thank you Ingi for taking a look at the images. I live a bit way from her, and due to not having enough to travel, I haven't been able to take a trip, but I have been very supportive, sending what I can to her and asking questions on this behave.

Of course I know about hippa laws, but the nurse said (as I told her) she didn't have her name as a patient... Not, I cannot give you any info on any patient. Big difference between those two notions. She never made me feel a part, given we haven't been together as she would have liked. I know she cannot abort the child by law.

I have asked her recently for confirmation and she comes up with excuses in why others who know or should, contradict. She wants to come down to where I am, and go to doctors here for a second opinion and to show me.

I have had to get tough and not speak, etc. I mean, look at this from my point of view... I said, I would relocate just to be a dad, which means my life would change. I ask her mom, today her doctor, etc and all contradict her.

I understand she could be right on this, but she lied to me about other things. I know I have no rights now, but expecting dads shouldn't go through so much, especially if the relationship wasn't meant to be. Expecting dads can still provide.
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replied June 20th, 2008
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either that or shes fat, by the looks of her arms, I think she's just fat, and trying to trap you. You should make her take a pregnancy test.
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replied June 22nd, 2008
I really think it could be either or. but if shes pregnant with your child then that means you had to have seen her with our clothes or atleast be close to her. was she that size when you had sex?
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replied June 22nd, 2008
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People can push their stomachs out. Pictures are not proof of pregnancy. Heck, I can push my stomach out and look 5 months pregnant (thats why I suck it in instead. Wink.

Is she collecting state funds/dshs/medical coupons for the baby? GUESS WHAT? You need written proof from a doctor for that. She has that if she is pregnant.

I personally believe she is yanking your chain. Pregnant women have proof.
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replied June 22nd, 2008
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Does she have ultrasound pictures of her baby? Can she video-tape herself taking a pregnancy test and showing you that it's positive? Hell, she could even go to a FREE pregnancy testing center and have them test her. They'll give her a sheet of paper that CONFIRMS her pregnancy, and she can mail a copy of that to you.

It's not hard to prove a pregnancy. Not hard at all. It's curious why she'd be faking one, except if you're giving her attention because of it. You should demand solid proof and break off contact with her until she provides it.
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replied June 22nd, 2008
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It appears he is sending her money also, as well as the attention...


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...I have been very supportive, sending what I can to her and asking questions on this behave...
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replied June 22nd, 2008
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Oh. Yeah, I'd push my stomach out too if that's all it'd take to get some money. Neutral

Stop rewarding her behavior. She can prove a pregnancy to you very easily. If she's making excuses not to and everyone else is saying she's not, you're throwing money and attention at a liar.
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replied June 28th, 2008
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Oh. Yeah, I'd push my stomach out too if that's all it'd take to get some money. Neutral

Stop rewarding her behavior. She can prove a pregnancy to you very easily. If she's making excuses not to and everyone else is saying she's not, you're throwing money and attention at a liar.
Thank you for your responses.


Wednesday, she explained she wasn't pregnant. I took you'll advice and seriously pressured her on it. She was very cold-hearted about it, as if it wasn't a matter of life and death. To me, it was; still. Thursday as I was trying to get reasoning behind this, none she could give me, she was once again cold-hearted and now disrespectful and rude explaining to me its all over, no baby and no her.



I wrote an email to her friend yesterday morning, explaining if she was please tell me. She didn't know she was even pregnant and she is her best friend. After her friend read her my email, she then called and her whole tone changed. Now she is saying, there was a baby and due to it being high risk, in the last week sometime (without no one telling me anything) that unborn child died. I asked her for proof and once again, she said "no doctor is going to give documentation ".



Yesterday I grieved for my little boy all day. I am still. I don't know what to believe and have no idea if she was pregnant. I have a medical condition that would make pregnancy very very difficult naturally. That could have been my only chance at fatherhood if it was. Now, I am lost. My little boy is gone, just like that.



She wants to come down on a bus in the morning. She wants to explain fully. She said, she lied because she was mad at me because the "baby" died. Her tone of voice did seem something happened. I dislike her very much now. My boy was to come to life in Sept, now I am left with no desire to go out and meet someone. I may love her, but I cannot trust her.



A main reason why I wanted confirmation was to light a fire under me to try harder and be the best I know I can be. Knowing I did this; fathered a child would have meant so much to me. Something doctors told me I couldn't do if by a miracle. At first, I was in denial because my situation was rare in being a father, but I got passed it, yet, I never embraced it. That confirmation would have changed everything, now my little boy is gone. Of course she said "if I could do it once, I could again".




She said she will show me a tape which has whatever on it concerning the unborn child. I don't know.



I think its time for her to be removed from my life. She has other kids but how she made me feel wanting to know what was going on is no excuse in how she made me feel. She presented this whole thing on Wednesday, like I was a dog; inferior to knowing the truth. I explained that to her. She may come down or not. I feel, I want to see if I can make her pregnant, I guess again. But, my pain must not make me do something unhealthy now.




If I try this with someone who cannot handle any stressful situation again, me and that unborn child will lose out again. This sucks. Too many b****ds with a child and or children that they don't deserve. I'm great with kids and would do parenting different from how I was received by my parents.



Whatev. This is life. Take care folks.
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replied June 28th, 2008
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She wasn't pregnant. There was no baby.

She is playing mind games with you. Its sick, I know, but some women think this is how to get a man to bend to their whims.

I will repeat: THERE IS NO CHILD. If their had been, and she'd miscarried, like she says, she would have been in the hospital, she'd have had to have a surgery called a D&C.

And you know what else? ALL her friends and her family would know about the baby. The first thing a woman (ANY WOMAN) does is tell her best friends and family - the fact that no one knew she was pregnant and there was never any proof of it tells you all you need to know.

For your own sake you should stop any relationship with her. Find someone who will not be so deceitful.

Good luck!
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replied June 28th, 2008
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I agree. She was never pregnant. Many women suddenly have "miscarriages" when they're forced to prove they were pregnant.

Stop grieving, sir. She wasn't pregnant. You did not lose a child.
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replied June 29th, 2008
Thank you for all your responses. This portion of my life is now behind me. Take care.
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replied July 2nd, 2008
One last thing.....She told me, she had a D&C procedure
Hello folks, recently my "GF" told me she had a D&C procedure. She was seven months pregnant.

Back to the D&C, she said she went in for cramping to the ER. They then checked the heart beat and he was non responsive. After she said, the doctors scrapped him out and laid him on her. She said, he was three pounds and of course she cried.

My question is, she has not provided any proof of this nor any part of this whole pregnancy. Does a D&C procedure happen like this?

She is here now. The only way she would explain to me what happened was to visit.
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replied July 2nd, 2008
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At seven months, I don't believe they do a D&C. I believe they induce labor. I could be wrong though, and I hope someone else replies.

Either way, she would have discharge papers from the hospital. You do not get a medical procedure without documentation. It does not happen in this country.
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replied July 2nd, 2008
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At 7 months it would be a stillbirth, not a D&C (and I can't imagine any doctor would place the POC on the woman after a D&C?!, plus here they are mostly (if not always) performed under general anaesthetic so she wouldn't be aware of this.)

She would have proof of this
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replied July 2nd, 2008
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How did the hospital bills get paid? She would have bills.

She would also have MULTIPLE doctor visits that need to be paid for. Where are those bills?

Aya is right, she would have discharge papers from the hospital. A D & C would NOT have been performed, she would have delivered that child via still birth @ 7 months pregnant. She would have stayed in the hospital for at least a day since this is an actual delivery/labor. They would have also discussed burying the child with her.

I'm pretty curious why she miscarried, did she tell you why?
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replied July 2nd, 2008
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sounds like a bunch of bull to me. Its rare to lose a baby like that especially at 7 months, and they would induce her. She would have hospital "souvenirs" such as her hospital bracelet, a mark on her arm or hand from her iv. Her family would definitely know about it. She's doing it for attention. There was never any baby. Also alot of dr's won't do a c-section for a stillbirth, due to the emotional trauma of losing a child. Not saying that no dr.'s will. But a lot won't
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replied July 2nd, 2008
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That is false information, Amethyst. It would depend on her personal situation - not what a doctor feels.
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