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Q: Is my sister-in-law in love with my husband?
asked by: immigrant on August 27th, 2009
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I am 27. It s been only one year we're together. And we got married within this year. Till now, I have been thinking that I know him and his family enough to embark on such an adventure.
Well, my husband has a sister who is 11 months older than him. From the very beginning, I heard from my husband that they ve always been so close to eachother and shared everything in life (especially pain and difficulties when their parents got divorced when they where just teenagers)..
Her sister is still alone (even though she is 32), and as far as I know she did not have any serious relationship (she can even be a virgine!!!...but of course I cant ask such an intimate question to find out the fact)
We are not really close with my sister-in-law, even though she tells me from time to time that she really likes me!
Well, after the introduction I come to the point. A few days ago, while we were talking about his sister and the fact that she is getting depressed because she is living alone, my husband told me that HER SISTER WANTS SOMEONE EXACTLY LIKE HIM, THAT S WHY SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!... I was terrified when I heard that. I just want to ask you, is that normal??? what would be the reasonable reaction in this kind of situation? At this point, should I think maybe before they had smth more than just being close brother-sister???
Please help. What should I think after this strange confession of my sister-in-law?
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JavaMissus
replied on August 27th, 2009
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Don't think about it...It is the past...I like to think that the past is the past...Chances are that she probably just plain adores her brother...Many sisters feel like this...My daughter named her son after our son as she admired him so much....This is probably true of the woman you speak about....

My advice would be, don't make something out of a nothing...And if there was ever a something, it was part of yesterday....You live in today...

Good luck,
Caroline
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ServiceU
replied on September 4th, 2009
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my ex and his sister (who live in California) felt that way about each other. we lived in philly, and i felt as though they would say things only a couple who say.
i didnt feel comfortable with the things she said, for example "if i come down there i dont want you to be in a relationship since im single" so she could take up all his time.
anyway, i think your sister-in-law needs a life. i can see her admiring her brother and that is a good think, but for her to not date because of it is crazy.
she's going to be a lonely old women trying to find someone that is just like her brother.
if she gets lonely enough i m sure she'll find someone.
Pay her no mind that is your man.
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wendyrs
replied on September 4th, 2009
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It sounds to me like they were just really close when they were growing up and she just wants a guy as special as he was to her. I wouldn't take what she said seriously..It sounds to me like she was just making an excuse for being single so long and using her brother as a scapegoat. My sister-in-law is always complimenting my husband. I know it's because she just loves him and thinks he's a great guy.
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princesskari418
replied on September 4th, 2009
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i'm 33 and me and my brother were extremely close...we talked about everything and talked on the phone all the time (like 3 times or more a day). we always said i love you when we got off the phone and if we forgot we would call back and say "i love you" and hang up. he was my best friend. i lost him last year and miss him dearly...i felt pain and panick all day before i knew he passed away. i knew something was wrong and that was cause we were so close. i miss my best friend! there is nothing wrong with a brother and sister being very close to each other.
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wendyrs
replied on September 4th, 2009
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PrincessKari,

I'm so sorry you lost your brother. I think it's wonderful that you had such a warm and loving relationship. It's nice to hear about siblings having such a connection with each other rather than fighting. He will always have a special place in your heart that nobody can take away from you.

Wendy
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