Is my husband gay.....or just bi?

Okay, this might be long. When I first met my husband, we were working together at a sports bar and we just talked occasionally. I honestly thought he was gay because he had....well....he just had that sort of voice. When I learned that he had a girlfriend, I was completely shocked and assumed she was either completely daft for not realizing he was gay and she was simply his coverup, or else she was head-over-heals. As time went on, we became closer friends but eventually he quit and found a new job. A few months later he went in to eat and we started talking - which led to him asking me out on a date.

We hit it off instantly. We could talk about anything and everything under the sun for hours on end, we were both very open-minded, both loved to travel and read and write. I got him interested in classical music, he got me interested in comedies and hookah. Within a few weeks of dating, I gave him my virginity - he was definitely not a virgin and was actually pretty lose during his bachelor years, so he was pretty experienced, but was very gentle and sweet about it all. After two months of dating, we both started talking about marriage and how much we loved each other, how close and open we were - he proposed three months later, and now we've been together 3 years and married for nearly 2.

Okay, so when we first met I was very open with him and told him I was bisexual, that I'd had only one sexual encounter with a female but that I had always known since I was young that I was attracted to both males and females. He loved the idea of me being bi and wanted me to do a threesome with him and another girl - it was one of his fantasies. So I agreed. It wasn't a big deal at all, we didn't get jealous or anything, and we actually became a stronger couple afterwards - which might seem strange to people that have never done it. Somewhere in the mix of discussing sex, I offhandedly said one day that it aroused me to see two men kissing - not having sex, just kissing.

As time went on, he gradually started talking about having another threesome with a man, saying that it might arouse me to see him being intimate with a male. I was for it, and though he 'seemed' hesitant at first (even told me that before he met me, he had hated gay men but that meeting me 'opened his eyes' to it all.) So we've had a few threesomes with men where he's given and received oral and had intercourse with two men. My husband loves to have his prostate stimulated and will sometimes ask me to put a finger up his bum and sometimes use a dildo, which I never minded.

So here's the catch that makes me uncertain. He watches bi porn a lot - by bi, I mean two guys and one girl. That's like his 'thing.' I've even noticed that he watched pure gay porn twice when I checked out the internet history. Our sex life recently has really dwindled. We have absolutely zero foreplay - usually he asks if I want to have sex, I say yes, I take off my clothes, he takes off his, I lie down, he puts it in, cums, voila. The end. I told him recently that he either needed to start warming me up beforehand or we need to invest in some lube, because my vagina is getting pretty sore from being so dry when he first puts it in. Since I said that, he's been half-heartedly trying to arouse me, but it all seems very rushed and kind of clumsy, like he's just in a hurry to put it in and could care less about my pleasure. I've never been able to orgasm EVER and he's been my only true sexual partner (I only had sex with one of the men we had threesomes with and kept my pants on during the other threesomes.)

Also, it doesn't seem like he could care less what I look like. When I first met him, I wouldn't step food out of the house without makeup on and looking presentable. He started telling me I didn't need makeup and sometimes would get impatient with waiting for me to get ready, so over time I quit wearing it. Now I only wear it for special occasions like going out to a bar or club or family gatherings. But he never compliments me when I look nice. The only compliment I've EVER gotten from his was, "You're beautiful," and "You're so sexy," <-----the latter being only when he wants sex from me. He's never once told me I'm gorgeous, pretty, have beautiful eyes, a lovely dress, NOTHING. Just, "You're beautiful," or "You're so beautiful." Hell, I get better compliments from my mom! And I'm always telling him how much I adore him, how much I love his blue eyes, his dimples, the red and gold in his facial hair, etc. I'm very specific because I love him and I want him to know that I'm still attracted to him. Also, whenever he goes to hang out with his friends or male cousins, he gets SUPER excited, like almost bubbly because he's so excited! He'll get all dressed up, fix his hair, puts on cologne, etc. which he doesn't even do for me! Hell, half the time I'm lucky if he showers twice in a week lol. He told me once that when he was a teenager, one of his cousins asked if he could put his penis between my husband's butt cheeks so that he could imagine what it would be like to have sex with a girl - so my husband pulled his pants down and let him. Ever since he told me that, I've really wondered if he's had other encounters with the males around him that I don't know about.

So what do y'all think? Is simply bi or is he really gay? I know it's hard to truly know, and since we're both open about our sexuality, it's not like I could really catch him at anything. I've never noticed anything strange on his facebook or phone. I have no problems with him being bi - I'm just scared that he might PREFER men to women. I love him to death but I'm terrified of getting my heart broken twenty years down the road when he finally admits that he's not just bi, that he's actually gay. Need advice please! He's very loving and very sweet all the time, he's really a good husband and a great friend to me as well! Sorry for this being so long, there's just so many details to it all, I really wanted everything listed on here. Thanks!