Hi there...i have been married 10 years to a man who i think is bipolar for a few reasons :1.)He has a brother who was diagnosed 2 years ago, and an aunt diagnosed decades ago, and 2.) he is incredibly self-centered, selfish, controlling, mean spirited, spiteful, and OCD. His brothers symptoms seem totally opposite of his...his brother has the manic highs and lows, he has been suicidal. Thankfully, his brother is also a doctor, a PhD & a cardio-thoracic surgeon and recognized the symptoms in himself and sought the help he needed. My husband on the other hand thinks he can control anything and everything and refuses to seek any treatment, help or diagnoses. To share my reasons why i think he is bipolar: He is very short on patience, has an aggressive personality, curses like a sailor without thinking or regard, is OCD about any hobby he may get interested in...like fishing. If one bait or rod is good, 20 of the same thing is better...spiteful. IE: if i ask him to please watch his language in front of the kids, he will do it more out of spite and disrespect. When he yells at the kids (aged 16,9,5 and 20 months), he spews obscenities, and to him, the word "f**k" is like breathing air...every-other-word uttered is that. He'll call our 20 month old a little f-ing bi**h every time she annoys him. He has a sense of grandiosity-everything is owed to him. He does nothing around this house. Nothing. Won't even take out the trash. His exscuse is that he works 8 hours a day, he's not going to come home and work more. What does everbody else in america do to make their household run if they never lifted a finger after work? I am currently an at home mom. Between my 16 year old daughter and myself, we do it all. Yet, he'll tell me all i ever do is sit on my fat f-ing a** while he is bringing home a paycheck. I am 5'4" and 115 lbs! Anyways, my 16 yr. old does all the typical "man" chores of mowing the lawn & stacking the wood in winter months. She helps me with the trash at the end of the week. I do ALL the indoor chores...plus taking care of the kids single-handedly. He has refused to change diapers for all of them. He's never taken them to dr.s appointments. Or school...or gone to a parent teacher conference. I used to work full time too. When i did, i still did all the household chores. Oh yes, when i cook dinner, i have to serve him. Wait on him hand and foot, or he'll turn into a royal screaming ass. He can't (or Won't) even get his seconds for himself. He has moments where he is sweet and loving, likes to cuddle with the kids & take them to do fun things (fishing, movies), but when he gets angry with them, there is no middle ground. He is just ruthless and brutal. I am so ready to leave him. I RESENT him so much, i have no sexual drive towards him, no romantic feelings. We haven't had sex in six months. I personally am glad...i don't want to have sex with him. He repulses me and turns me off mentally. I don't love him anymore. I should say that i'm not IN love with him anymore. I love him as the father of my children and the best friend that he USED to be, but i'm tired of eating the proverbial "caca sandwich". I'm tired of seeing my kids subjected to his mood swings and demands, and getting verbally abused...and he expecting all of us to just take it. He totally undermines my authority with the kids and disprespects my wishes concerning them. I hate my life with this man. I'm tired of being the kind, gentle, patient one. He walks allover us. He thinks his opinion is the only one that counts. He is a control freak. I can probably still go on and on, but i think i have given enough examples for a determination to made...is he bipolar or just a selfish SOB? I need help. I'm tired of suffering through what i feel is his mental illness and issues while he flies through life doing and saying whatever he pleases. It must be great to be him. He has his world on a silver platter. He seems to like himself & his life alot. P.S. i'm not a pansy and just let him walk allover me...i am very patient, but i will speak up-and always nicely, but whenever i do, i'm nothing but a fu**ing b**ch and "c**t", and he dismisses me, my thoughts, feelings and opinions. I feel totally trapped. Please help.