This is not exactly a health question and I wasn't sure where I should post it, but it is weighting on my mind and driving me crazy... I have a friend I am really close to and I suspect she is "snorting coke". I have asked her a couple times and she swears to me she is not. She knows that i am totally against drugs and she probably thinks that I would be upset with her if she told me yes, which I would but I only want to help her. I don't suspect shes doing it all the time but its like she goes threw phases every couple months. I see this friend almost every day. I have suspected it three different times because for about two weeks her attitude will change, she will have nose bleeds out of no where, she has the sniffles a lot and messes with her nose a lot, and she hangs out with people that I know do it. Like I said it seems like she goes threw phases, like the first time I suspected it went on for about two weeks and then things were fine for about two months and it repeated like this twice. Can anyone help me out with this? Are these real signs that she is using drugs? How can i talk to her and get her to tell me the truth is she really is? And how can I help her get off this drug if she is in deed on it?
Any advice and opinions will help! Thanks!
As a recovering heroin addict, the LAST thing you want to do is get all confrentational on your friend cuz that will cause her to IMMEDIATELY feel as though you are judging her and attacking her lifestyle choices. Ppl that use drugs generally have SOMETHING that drives them to it, more often than not, there is significant emotional pain that the drugs obliterate hence the "self medicating". You need to put aside your own opinions about drug use, and take a VERY NON JUDGEMENTAL stance with her, and go for the HEART. Every addict has one. You don't want to alienate her, and she needs to know that you are coming from a GOOD place of caring and love. If she hasn't suffered any consequences yet from her using, she may not see anything wrong with it, and tries to tell you "she has it under control". At that point, you may not agree with her, but leave that door open if she does feel it's getting outta control, you will ALWAYS be her friend.
Thanks Fleebag73. I have just got to the point where I don't even try to talk to her about it anymore. I do love her dearly and she knows that, so she knows i will always be here for her no matter what. I don't judge her at all, I just want whats best for.