I am divorced and my child's father has been acting very bad about coparenting. He's taken our 8-yr-old girl out of school, out of country without my permission, transfer her, etc...We are currently fighting in court to get a better arrangement.
Besides badmouthing me to the child, he's calling everytime I have picked the kid up asking her "Are you OK?" He's told her I am mentally ill despite a clean bill of health from psychologist. Now when he calls, he said "the cat misses you and she's depressed and crying." or "If I call and you couldn't answer the (cell) phone I will just go cry by myself."

I tried to tell my daughter that her father is a grown up and he's just saying that. He can take care of himself. I don't want her to feel bad or feel like she has to take care of his feelings when she's away. My daughter said her father is just being sarcastic fun, that I am just jealous.

Am I over-reacting? How do you suggest I handle the situation?

I do think it affects the quality of my time with my daughter. Also, I don't think I can get the father to change so the only option is to adjust me or my daughter.