Is my boyfriend a compulsive liar?

Hi brianned02 and welcome to ehealth: How old is he?...Lying can be a dangerous habit...If he is an adult and still doing this I would think twice about what my life could/would be living like this....Chances are that he will never get over it...If so, the question would be "can you trust him?"....Take care...

Caroline

Thanks...he's in his late 20s. I'm just scared to spend another 6 years with him to find out he's been telling other big lies, I don't know whether this is something he'll ever stop doing?!

Hi again...It is a very bad habit...Where does it stop?....What do you believe?....That is the problem...I send you my best wishes...Take care...

Caroline

My husband had a three year affair and became an excellent manipulator and liar. If there is not trust in a relationship, there is not a healthy love. You may feel now like "you can't live without him", but can you live with the second guessing? Can you continue to feel confident in yourself enough to carry the relationship for both of you if you cannot trust him. It may be a "little lie" here and there, but where does it end?
Whatever you decide, do what is best for you. Best of luck on your journey of discovery and enlightenment.

I am a compulsive liar in a serious relationship with a man I love very very dearly. He knows about a couple big lies I've told but has no concept of the rest. If he does, he is in deep denial. I do not know if I can stop, but I know I can never come clean on my own. If he confronted me, I would admit to bits and pieces, which is what happened with the ones he knows about. I hate myself. Thoroughly. I want desperately to stop. Tell your boyfriend if you catch him in another lie you'll leave him. If my boyfriend told me that, I would be so scared I'd never lie again. I'm serious. All I need is a bit of pushing, which I've never really gotten. He may very well be the same way. Compulsive liars can have some of the most burning, all-consuming, devoted, empathic love. But until they stop they are empty shells. Stick it out if you think you can, but be firm. Do not under any circumstances confront him on all of his specific lies. Just tell him you know and if he wants to keep you he'll be honest about all things present and future. The past will probably never become fully unlocked. If you can handle that, your relationship has a chance.