Against your wishes and after you have said no, then yes that would be rape. I'm not wishing to make light of this at all, but you've continued to stay with someone who you felt 'raped' you for months - so what is going to happen when you tell people you were raped is that they probably won't believe you.

Generally when a woman is raped, her reaction is not one of sticking around with the guy or continuing the relationship.

I think there may be some emotional abuse going on in your relationship and you should distance yourself as far as possible from your boyfriend until you figure out what you are going to do and get a support system around you.

You need to make an appointment with Planned Parenthood right now. You don't need your mother's permission. Just call them.

How do you know you are 9 weeks pregnant?

ok

and because he did tell me the day after

so it would be rape

In which case, you need to report it immediately if that is what it is.

no no no i cant
i feel that i love but sometimes i dont i know what he did was wrong but i cant to manythings goin on i dont need another like hes always been there even though what he did wasnt right

i just wanted to know if it was or not

So you want to know if you were raped when you were unconcious but you aren't going to do anything about it. What is the point of that?

Your logic is like someone in an abusive relationship. I know he/she loves me even though what he/she did was wrong. What advice would you give to a close friend who was being beaten by their significant other but gave you this excuse?

It's crap, and you need to report him. You may not feel comfortable right now...maybe not tomorrow, but you need to soon.

If this was against your will, it is rape. I don't care what he's been there for you for before...he betrayed your trust by doing this to you. How can you trust this person after this?

What I will say is that if you don't report him...the least you can do it distance yourself from him. I feel like if he thinks he can get away with this once, he will try it again.

I've been through experiences similar to this. If you need someone to talk to, PM me. I'm always available. Please think of yourself BEFORE you think of him!

ok and my friend and i was talkin about this and she thinks its best if i report it and shes been my friend since like i was 3 and i think i found the corage to repot it

oww ya and what is pm

PM stands for Personal Message/Private Message. Towards the top of this page, it has a header that says "private messages" and you can send me a message (like an email).

Or, you can click my username, and click the button that says "Send User a Message"

I think you're doing the right thing. I wish you the best of luck, and keep that friend close with you so you can talk to her if you are having problems with this. It takes a lot of courage, but I'm happy you have at least one person to help you through everything.

Again, feel free to PM me.
:: hugs ::

im like just soo mad at him for that but im also mad at my self for goin to his house after my mom told me i wasnt allowed.
i wish i wouldnt have went if wouldnt have went this would have never happened.

did this consensually happen while you were drunk? some people have consensual sex while under the influence but if you made it clear that you didn't want this and he did it anyway then yes its rape...also you need to be very careful who you're drinking around...i've learned this lesson myself..there was a guy I was really into in college..frat boy..and he was determined to get into my pants and though I really liked him I dont believe in getting physical until after the relationship becomes serious and exclusive, for a while I didn't drink around him period and when I did I made sure I didn't drink SO much that it would impair my decision making...I didn't trust him, I feel like if I did drink he might have taken advantage of the situation...and he did try...you have to put your foot down..make sure you do say "NO" and be clear about it and like I said..be careful who you're drinking around..especially at a party where there are open cups..never leave your drink unattended...someone could slip something in your drink

I had a similar situation happen to me a few years back, in 2005.
I went to a house party at a friend of mine's house. My brother and cousin were also at the party, so I wasn't worried about my safety. I also knew this person for a number of years, and had been drinking with this person on many occasions with no problems.
This night, I had way too much to drink. Against my better judgment, I went to this person's bedroom alone. I passed out flat drunk within minutes. I woke up the next morning and was in a lot of pain. My bra had been cut off with a knife that was laying on the floor next to me, along with a used condom. I immediately left. I reported him that afternoon. The next day, the police came to take pictures of all of the bruises that were on me. I had perfect handprints on my inner thighs where he had to hold my legs open.
He was taken to jail, but was bonded out a few days later. $50,000.
The investigation went on for almost a year. I was in close contact with the solicitor and let me tell you, it gets brutal.
She couldn't guarantee me a conviction because he and his lawyer maintained that it was consensual. After a year, I finally dropped the charges because I refused to get on a stand and be made out to be a who** (that's what a defense lawyer would do).
I wish you better luck than I had with this situation.

EVEN if you are unconscious, rape is rape. You can't give consent if you are not awake.

i'm sorry to hear this marianne...this must have been an extremely rough time for you..and i agree..if you are to the point to where you cant even say "no" or "yes" then it is still NOT consensual and most defnitely rape...you really have to be careful these days..some people think they can get away with anything

Of course it is rape.

He knew very well you weren't whole while drunk and completely manipulated and took advantage of you.

He probably harrassed your mind to such a point when you were very vulnerable.

i feel really stupid about goin over there and havin a drink and letting him talk me into drinking even more.
i was still a vergin and i wanteed to wait he did try to talk me into losing it to him a couple weeks be4 that and i said no im not ready yet.
i wish i would have just stayed home.

It's not your fault.

There are devils in this world who will see innocense and naiveity as their food.

I'm very sorry this has crossed your path. I'm very sorry there are such evil beings in this world.

I hope you can find peace from this and growth. And I hope he gets what he deserves in life...however he made you feel he should feel much worse in life.

he doesnt think he did nothing wrong he thinks he did me a favor and i really did not want to lose it to him.
when he hurts me or something he thinks hes doin me a favor bbut i guess he just dont get when he does stuff like that hes hurting me not helping me.

Often cruelty towards another is justified by making the 'victim' believe a favor is being done for their sake.

I truly believe you need to distance yourself from this dude. He is not healthy for you.

You don't ******ing rape someone cause you think it's a favor to them. Like what the hell does that even mean!!!

idk what he means but hes a jerk and ive figured that out and i got a restraing order agianst him but like he still calls and asks me why im mad at him and all that i guess he just dont get it.