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Q: Is it ok to casually date more than one person?

asked by: whtrose_13 on April 12th, 2009

New User

I am really confused and I need some serious opinions here...Is it ok to see, or casually date more than one person? I have been seeing this guy and he asked if I have gone on any other dates. I told him that I have. He said he didn't like the whole sharing a girl thing. He wants to continue the "getting to know you" before we decide to be in a committed relationship, but doesn't want me to go on dates with anyone else while we do that. Maybe it's just me but I think that going on dates with more than one person, just to get to know someone before a committed relationship, isn't a bad thing. Am I wrong? What does everyone else think?

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worrywart01

replied on April 12th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy

no you're not in the wrong..if you aren't commited to him and officially in a relationship you can go out and date whoever else you want...if he wants to take his time getting to know you then thats fine and understandable but you should not feel like you cant go out and get to know other guys..thats perfectly fine..if he feels jealous then thats his problem..right now you have no commitment to each other

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deteragram

replied on April 12th, 2009

Supporter

I agree with worrywart01. The two of you are not commited to one another so he cannot reasonably expect you to be exclusive. Now, if you're sleeping with him and another man, that is another situation altogether. He has the right to know if you are having sex with anyone else- but even then, he only has the right to know if there is someone else. He does not have the right to demand that you be exclusive. If he does not like the situation, he should find someone else.

JavaMissus

replied on April 12th, 2009

Moderator

I agree with worrywart01 and deteragram, on this...However, I feel that if this guy was special to you, that your heart would be with him...Maybe it's me, but the first date we had we just fell madly in love...

Each woman is different in their feelings for a man...As for me I had to have a man that would knock me off my feet...and he did...and he still does...I don't think you have the same feelings that I found...Saying this my advice would be the same as WW, go ahead and date and have some fun...

Caroline

ServiceU

replied on May 4th, 2009

Supporter

it's okay to casual date, of course some guys are going to be territorial to this. you are being honest about it.
i think it's wrong if your sleeping with someone and your in a full blown relationship and you decide you want to date in this situation.
maybe he'll step up his game knowing he has to compete against you.

thoumas

replied on May 29th, 2009

Experienced User

as long as you both come to an agreement not to be exclusive then its okay, otherwise drop him, or become exclusive

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