Q: is it normal to grieve like this?
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newmommy07
on May 12th, 2008
Active User, very eHealthy
i was lucky enough that my dad lived to see his 1st grand baby... my son was born jan 9th 08, dad died march 19th. anyways ive been really strong most of the time but now i find myself miserable as i come to reality (not shock) and it hurts so bad and im angry and irritable so much these last couple of weeks. ive been refusing intercourse, thinking of breaking up with my b/f, resenting my dads g/f as she wont let me have anything to remember him by. < she did his will when my dad wasnt in a sober state of mind. she got his house and everything in it. i know my dad and know what he said a few months before he passed. he wanted everything to go to his kids (bro and i). he always put us kids first and his g/f always hated that. i just feel he has been cheated. i dont care she got the house cuz im not mature enough for that responsibility, but his belongings? i feel entitled to those. i want his stuff because if i gather his belongings i feel like i can be comforted (not that lil things replace him), but that the lil things can make me feel surrounded by him, my way of copping. what should i do? i want lil things like his fav indian blanket, his black and gold onix ring (for my sons grad. presant when he matures), his coffee mugs (long story about me in HS with those), his pics, his paintings. i want to keep that stuff in the family. i might sound greedy but not trying to. i want what is sentimental. i mean eventually she will move on... i dont want his stuff to go instorage or given to good wheel if that makes sense. what u think help me out plz.
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