i dunno..personally for me i know that'd be really weird...how long have you two been talking and how did you find out you were cousins? i mean how do YOU feel about it...could you really get past that?

I really dont feel bad... Im just scared of what other people may think and what negative remarks we may get. We found out through my cousin b/c our relationship has been very private. We live a hour and a half apart from each other b/c were both in college.

is this something you really wish to pursue though? long distance right now while you're in college? and would it be worth it in the long run...just weigh the pros and cons about things...right now you're both in college..this is a huge dating opportunity for both of you..and believe me long distance relationships are HARD..i was in one for nearly 8 months..things worked out, and i'm not saying it cant for you..i'm just saying if its early on in the relationship and things haven't gotten serious yet you might want to think things through before pursuing a serious relationship with each other...if your DISTANT cousins, like really distant..then i guess its not a big deal..is he a cousin of one of your cousins or something? because in that case you may not even be blood related you know? like if my aunt who married into my family has a sister and her sister has a son then we wouldn't be blood related...get it? bc its my AUNTS family not my uncles (who is my moms brother)..so it wouldn't be a blood relation if its a relative of my aunts...kind of confusing maybe..i tried..so how exactly is he related to you? do you know for sure if there is a blood relation there?

There is a blood relation.. but down the line. Like my great great great grandma and his great great great grandfather might be brother and sister. We only live like a hour and a half from each other , and we see each other like every other weekend.

I don't really see a problem with it.

If it bothers you just imagine your wedding and picture where everyone will sit. If everyone there knows eachother due to being related then yeah, it might not be a good idea. But if you really care about the guy I say stick with it.

The both of you should actually make a family tree together and both talk to a doctor about it.

Hope I helped.

Thanks Marius... I never really looked at it like that. I pictured our wedding and only about 5 people there will be confused on where to sit at. So i guess is not that bad after all. THANKS YOU GUYS

Who cares what "anyone /everyone"else thinks? You have this one life to live, and if the two of you are happy, then this is your business. Jerry Lee Lewis married his first cousin back in the 50's.......SO WHAT? I can understand your concerns about a child being born with a deformity or handicapped in some way, but I always thought this was "family" related...like your brother or your Dad. Life it too short sweetie to worry about what anyone else thinks.........you have to take the bull by the you know what and ride like the wind...........I say if you both are happy, then you can find a way to make it work........and if no one shows up at your wedding..its THEIR loss! HUGS! FGM

I wouldnt worry about that at all just make sure that if other people have a problem with it you are willing to deal with the adversity in the future. The fact that the relation between you two isnt blood I wouldnt think a child problem is a problem but if your concerned go to doctor and be sure. Life is too short to live for everyone else because then u will be unhappy just do what you feel is right and everything will be ok.

she said they were blood related but its far down the line...honestly, if it doesn't bother you and it doesn't sound like youre close relatives at all then go ahead and pursue it...mine as well go for it rather than live with regret...an hour and a half isn't that bad..my boyfriend and i were 4 hrs apart..i was going back for my 2nd year in college and he was starting his first..we'd only been dating for about 2 1/2 months before i left but things had gotten kinda serious fast(we'd only realized how close wed gotten when it came time for me to to leave)...but yea, long distance was very hard..but it has its perks! those reunions are Amaaaaazing keeps the relationship fresh.. and if you two really want to work at it(believe me it can be WORK) then things will work out...good luck to you!

don't worry so much, yur cool

Hay, in our culture it is perfectly fine. we have many many women who get married to their cousins. no problem at all and the kids are very normal. just stay away from the 1st ones.

Hey if you like each other then whats the big deal whether he is cousin or not.When we search in this world then many will be our cousin.After all he is your long distance cousin.You both love each other and you also like each others company then i think you must go on.