Wow you need to either leave him or speak up. I do not mean to sound harsh but this is ridiculous!

He is obviously hiding someone or something and doesnt want you to know about it, and it sounds like another woman. You need to comfront him and demand explanations. There is no way he doesnt know how messages get on his phone and its completely disrepectful to go into the restroom and turn on the fan with you there. Im sorry if I sound angry. I have been through exactly what you are going through and trust me it tore me apart.

So the first thing I would do is ask him if hes with someone else. And until you get an answer I would stop trying for a baby. What hes doing is totally unfair to you and it will be to a baby. Also if he has cheated then he doesnt deserve the family you are willing to give him.

Then depending on what he says and what you beleive, you should decide how much lying you are willing to take.

But the bottom line is once they use you and lie to you they almost always do it again. Because you havent said or done anything then he thinks this is ok. I guarantee you he will not like you asking him questions.

Again Im sorry if I sound harsh or mean. I dont know the whole story but I have been used and abused and I knew it. But i loved the man soooo much that I stayed and always took him back. As a result of his cheating I was given genital herpes and lost 3 years of my life. Please dont let this kind of heart ache happen to you or a child.

Please keep posting and pm me if you like

i know what u mean. they was together for 4 yrs and everytime i turn around shes either callin his uncles phones or his phone.he just recently got a new cell.and her number is in it.im like u just got the phone if u didnt call her or gave her ur number then how did she get it.he wouldnt give me his number for a few days.we live together and hes gone all day and im in the house by myself no phone no nothing.when i confront him about it he tells me that she been had his ppls numbers since they were together.but there numbers have changed and they have new numbers. how is it that she keeps getting these numbers.and then on top of that i had a phone that i didnt want but it was on and my name was on the bill.i gave it to his uncle and she winds up gettin my number!!!aint that crazy.i went to my phones website and looked at the phone records and he calls her like 10-15 sometimes more than that a day.i barely get 1 phone call from him and if i do its no more than 5 min.i told him that very disrespectful for for someone to keep givin her the number and her keepin incontact with him.but i cant talk to a guy on the phone.im gonna make a stand im gonna keep my kool and if i find out on more thing,im goin to leave cause i dont deserve it.and im tired of him always saying hes sorry.if u didnt do anythin why say sorry?

First of all it doesn't sound like you're relationship with this person is stable enough to even think about getting married let alone try to have a baby! You need to definitely re-think this relationship. If you stay in it any longer it looks like you'll end up getting hurt. Of course I dont know this guy, but he seems pretty sketchy to me, so just keep your eyes open and make smart decisions. NO ONE deserves to be cheated on. Good luck!!

Take care of you and the baby. This guy sounds like a liar and cheat. If you marry him this will be your life. He won't change for you or the baby. You deserve better and so does the little one. Move on and make a life for yourself and your baby.

or stay with and be unhappy
Ask your self a few questions, I wanna be with a guy who fools around on me,, cheats, lies etc... he may be worth it in the end, do you have what it takes???? Sounds like he is in control of you, can you do what ever he feels like, no matter what, you think a baby will change that?, cause of the love you feel for him? NottA,If you wish to keeep dating the guy, ok, we all have our troubles, it's a long road, but keep in mind, the long road

this is comming from on honest guy that used to party and knows how guys r.. hes cheating on you girl.. and even if its not sexually just talking to other girls is cheating.. find yourself a guy that dont hide anything from you.. everyone deserves on honest and open relationship.. if you wanna talk message me!

hmmmm well read what he said, if you want to live in denile and be treated unfaithfully, keep doing what you are doing, the guy is a "_uck up: and doesn't deserve to bring a baby into this world. Does society need anymore of this, you decide? Just my opinion:)

Personally to me it does sound like he is cheating on you. If he was just friends with his ex and they talked once and a while he should not have to hide from you. I would speak up to him and say something. Maybe even try to follow him and she where he goes or something.

think about yourself here- not just emotionally- but physically. This guy could give you diseases. Diseases could hurt you and any baby you might have. You need someone you can trust to stay loyal.

Speak up and get the confidence to tell him you won't put up with it! You can find someone better, you ARE worth it.