The condition with the throat is not caused by the intercourse. An HIV infection can not be excluded based only on the symptoms you reported without adequate tests.
According to the given data, you might be experiencing chronic inflammation of the tonsil. It is not very probable that the tonsil is infected all the time. More likely, the tonsil reacts to the irritation you did to it by poking and smoking.
You might want to visit a specialist in ear, nose and throat who will tell you if the tonsil is really swollen. A swab from the tonsils and the throat would exclude a chronic infection.