I'm experiencing erectile problems lately. It happened for the second time today in the last 2 weeks that I couldn't get an erection while watching porn and also trying to get it up using my hand, which I've never ever done before. I never had trouble getting an erection while masturbating, if it did it usually happened during the first sex with a new girlfriend. It happened when I lost my virginty, before first sex with my next girlfriend, but later on everything was great for almost 5 years (I had a short period, like a month when I lost my erectionduring sex a few times, but after that it never reoccurred in the next 2-3 years). I see a pattern of having trouble with my erection everytime I get a new gf or if a have sex with my ex. With my last girlfriend I coudn't get it really hard the first time, then everything went well for a month of so, after that had problems with loosing erection just before penetration or during the intercourse (usually lost erection within minutes) and after that everything went well again for a month or so. A month and a half after we broke up we had sex and I of course had problems again. From my "selfdiagnosis" I'd say the cause is psychological, my self esteem got low. I remember always being anxious about my performance with a new girl. Even after a few years lasting relationship with my ex, because it happend when I lost my virginity. And now ti happened a few times with the last girl I had and to top that I'm having problems getting an erection (sometimes) while masturbating. I found my heart racing while starting to watch porn because the question wether I'm going to get it up was in my mind all the time! Isn't that sick?!? I can't help myself, I'm always overthinking. I also noticed with my last gf, that sometimes I just felt I had a rock hard long lasting erections, but sometimes I just could feel if it's really hard and started thinking about it instead of enjoying myself.

I'm 30 years old, I don't take any drugs, I don't have diabetes, cholesterol nor high blood pressure. There's one more thing that might be relevant: sometimes (usually just during the winter) I get this pain in the area around my anus/pelvis or even in the area betwwen my anus and my testicles. Sometimes it's barely noticeable, but a few times a year it feels like a "shooting" pain ( I remember it happening a few times during the night when I urinated), i can feel it all the way down to my toes. This is currently not occurring or it is very rarely. So I didn't think of it at first because it looks like it's not a problem anymore. But it used to be, looks like it's cold realted (since it happens during the winter). I'm not sure it's relevant since I don't have the pain anymore, but have this erectile problems...

The worst thing of all is that I had good long lasting erections. Always. I could have sex a few time s day without a problem and I never ever needed any help getting it up. I used to get many erections every day just for talking to my gf on the phone, grabbing her ass etc. She said she never saw anything like it, my erections were so rapid and easily achieved like I was 16 years old, not 30...

PLS HELP!!!