Hi, first off, just wanted to say I'm new here, and I am in a heterosexual relationship, but I am also the vice president of the GLBT group where I live.

This is just my opinion, and I'm not saying this is always true, and for everyone...and I'm not talking about sex here, but attraction, a big difference. I'm talking about loving a person of either sex, not how that person's genitalia turns you on.

I don't think that people can be classified as gay or straight though. I hate labels. I think people are just attracted to whomever they are attracted to. I am attracted to my husband, for the loving and kind person he is. I am also attracted to my ex-girlfriend for the smart, sensitive, funny, and in charge person she is. I think attraction is more than just being sexually turned on by what a person looks like (or what's between their legs...). I think attraction is when your soul seeks a soul in another person and finds something in that person's soul that makes your soul rejoice. Looking at it that way, anyone could be attracted to anyone else...all based on the kind of person that person is on the inside, not what is on the outside.

Examples, my mom is a straight women, who loves her best friend (a woman she has known since she was four) more than almost anyone. She would die for her friend. That is love. Her soul was and is attracted to her friend's soul.

I'm attracted to certain celebrities who do great work in good will around the world. They strive to help children and poor people all over the globe. I am attracted to these celebrities (both man and woman) not only because they are visually attractive (which most people in the world men and women would agree with), but because they touch my soul with their efforts, and my soul want to go forth and help also.

This is just my two cents. I think people are attracted to who they are attracted to, it doesn't have much to do with sex. I know gay men who are occasionally attracted to women they find have attractive hearts, and I know gay women who are attracted to the hearts of men.

Thanks, and please don't be too harsh on me, I didn't mean to offend anyone, I'm just a psychologist who hates labels...(Don't get me started on my hatred for gender labels on children!!!)

Chanel