Well ill start off by saying I was kind of in your position, myself being the one with possible HIV, I started dating a girl and told her about my situation and she said she didn't care. In the end she dumped me and we never ended up having sex and my HIV status is still unknown. Moving on though I would like to thank you for seeing HIV in such a unique way because most people would never be with anyone knowing their HIV positive. What you said about a cure being no more then 10 years away isn't a sure thing. HIV is something we haven't really faced before because it evolves so fast and mutates there are so many different strains out there now that no one can be sure when a cure will be made. However, you are right about current HIV medications working very well and now people with HIV are living much longer healthier lives. If you do have sex with her I HIGHLY recommended you wear a latex condom.

Best of luck with everything.

I can't let something microscopic stand in the way of someone who is a wonderful person. I've told her directly that she was the love of my life. She just ask me to please stop it.
I'm always thinking that it's a shame that most people see it a a cause for excluding others for being HIV-positive.
How can you be with someone one minute and feel repulsed the minute after. Doesn't make sense to me.
As far as protecting me, no need to worry about that, because I'm really well informed about the cares one must have. Also, I would never want her to feel guilty if i contracted HIV.
I guess love really does conquer every adversity.

Thank you very much for wishing me luck, and all the best to you to.

Im struggling with this situation right now and I feel the same way you do. I am divorced after a ten year marraige with 2 beautiful children. I have remained single for the last 5 years and have had no relations with another woman since because I always hoped to reconcile with my wife.

I started talking with a friend of mine who I went to High School with 20 years ago and she told me that she was infected with HIV 3 years after High School and told me how it happened (she didnt know he was infected but he did know and never told her). After spending the last month talking with her on the phone for hours on end (we live 2000 apart) we both knew that we were falling for each other. I know that Im totally in love with this woman for who she is irregardless of her HIV status. I struggle with the risk factors involved because of my children but this woman I know is the one for me. She was open and honest upfront about her situation and I know that took courage from her.

We havent had the discussion on what her status would mean for us but I know its coming soon and it doesnt really bother me in the least. I know we would love eachother unconditionally and you are right that love really does conquer every adversity

Good luck to you and I have the utmost respect for your handling of your situation

I'm so glad i found your post!.it was a like seeing my own life, written by soneone else.i am struggling with the same situation as you..i reconnected with my childhood sweatheart about a year ago.he was my first kiss at 12 and my first boyfriend at 13.and my first broken heart at 14.i moved away and got married and had children. we reconnected when i was 21 and i left my husband for him. he then became my second broken heart.a few years later he got married and i never saw him again.it would take us 24 years to find each other again.wich we did on facebook..we spent hours a day online or on the phone,and saw each other when we could(we're only 4 hours apart).then came the night he told me he was hiv positive.and has been for about 20 years.it took him almost an hour to finaly say it.it was one of the hardest things he had ever done. he was scared of losing me.but, my first words were."it doesn't change how i feel about you"..which i think was a bit of a shock to both of us...I had spent the last 11 years celebate because of the fear of std's.and here i am now.50 years old,and madly in love with an hiv positive man.the love of my life..we spend alot of time sharing how we feel about this.he's afraid of giving it to me, and i'm afraid of losing him.but, lifes to short to spend it worrying about the things we cant change!.i want to spend every day wih him like its our last.i will love and cherish every moment we have together, it took us 37 years to get here, and we wont waste a second of it .and yes..love does conquer all.!!.God bless!!