Im 18 years old and I've been sexually active since my freshman year of high school. And if I was'nt having sex when I was younger I was masterbating way to much I'm guessing. I use to do it 3 times a day, usually now I do it once a day. I don't know if that has contributed to my ed but as humiliating as it is I would like to know if it does. It's like a addiction and I can't stop. But I have a gorgeous girlfriend and I love her with all my heart and for the last past couple months... the times we do have sex I can't get as hard as I use to and I can't last but a few minutes if I'm lucky. The first couple weeks we started going out I was pretty much fully erected but the problem at the time she was a virgin and It was to tight to get in and we would have to stop because it hurt her. A few weeks later we started having normal sex then my ed problems started happening way later in the relationship. I know it sounds stupid but I'm really attracted to my girlfriend and she is the dream girl of my life but its like my penis doesn't want to get up.The first time I experienced ed was with a fat chick who basically forced me on her to have sex but I couldn't because she was the type of girl I wasn't attracted to. The 2nd time was with a girl I wasn't really attracted to and I felt guilty because it was my friends ex girlfriend. The last was with another girl I wasn't attracted to and I was drunk. But other than that I been with 5 other girls before and I have had great sex with them. Especially my first girlfriend. But then all these ed problems happened after I hooked up or tried to hook up with a fat girl. My life has change dramatically I have lost so much confidence especially from when I was having good sex. In fact my penis use to be 8 inches now it barely reaches 6-7, and it's not even as wide as it use to be. This problem has really changed my life negatively I would be thankful if anyone can give me good advice or tell me what could possibly be my problem. Alot of things in my life has changed I have less energy and I use to be the star athlete of my school and for some reason this year my game has changed and gotten worst in all sports. Please someone direct me to some good advice because I would rather not go to a Dr. yet. Sorry for the long post I just want to make sure all the details are told so maybe they can explain whats happening and someone can help.
thats my post and its almsot similar to yours . only difference is ... im 21 and your 18.firstly you got to stop masturbatiing . you have a girlfriend and thats good enough . if you want to masturbate. do it every alternate day .. then reduce it to just two times a week . remember anything done in excess is a problem . do you drink ? stop .. do you smoke ? then stop ... dude and one more thing it has been proven and its really imposiblle for anyones penis to shrink . i think you have been over dreaming a bit , but to tell you the truth there is no way your penis can shrink ..
secondly you said you have les energy.. im pretty sure your energy has reduced thanks to something nasty which you have been doing , could be smoking , drinking , or anything ?? ... also there is a certain stage in life where people do have these problems... and it goes away after a while
first its natural for mento masturbate... i think men who dont are weird. its natural! anyways. have you had her try to masturbate you? you know if thats what gets you off.. maybe it be better when she does it.
I definitely agree with coolkenny. take it easy on the drugs, alchohol, and cigs. Those kind of things actually make your body use resources to fix (lungs, liver, brain, etc) so that when it comes time to perform at sex, the body is taxed. So, it is best to absolve your daily life of these things. do them on the weekends only.
secondly, if you masturbate a lot, it taxes semen production, which in turn taxes testosterone levels and other major male hormone levels. These hormones play a fundamental role in an erection. STOP THIS. Immediately. If you love your sex life with your GF, then you have to stop masturbating. you will see an increase in size, as well as length if you follow these instructions. hope I have re-validated coolkenny's point.
Hmm almost the same problem with me I'm 15 I use to masturbate everyday but I quit now i only do that like once a week and this still happens to me when i have sex with my girl friend my penis will get hard then after like 40 Sec it will get soft So I'm lost my dam self and I'm young ass hell
I'm kinda in the same boat man, I'm 18 and have been hooking up with this one girl in my class for a couple weeks now. Foreplay gets it up almost immediately but when it comes time to put on the condom I find myself losing it in a minute. I've never had this problem before, ex. when I was with my ex everything seemed normal and sex was good. I'm gonna absolutely cut off masturbating for a while, see if that helps. If that doesn't I'll cut off the weed and drink. I'm pretty damn attracted to this girl and she's amazing but it's extremely embarrassing when this happens and I feel like a fool. Also, try not to worry about it and you might be fine. That's what I'll do.
Cut out any drinking/smoking. Start exercising regularly Eat more veggies (And Variety) and leaner cuts of meat. Forgo simple carbohydrates and sugar containing foods/snacks/candies for said veggies. Go to your local supplement shop (GNC) and ask for an L-Arginine supplement (This will help with prolonging your erection, and your exercising) and take that according to it's directions, take odourless garlic pills/a multivitamin daily. Drink lots of water everyday.
Hey guys let me tell you for the most part it is in your head. I am older and I can tell you that many of these things happen for a reason that is in your mind. A bad relationship with your mother. Guilt, fear, there are a million reasons. Just know that it is normal and you should seek help by a profesional therapist. This is not a bad thing and left me tell you this is normal for it to happen to men. Forget the porn that we watch with the guy having sex for hours that is made up and part of many problems out there. A good thing to do is find a girl that you feel safe with. Make out , pet, have oral sex with her and allow her to touch you but dont have intercourse. Just enjoy touching each other without any pressure. First, wommen really want the touching and kissing and if the pressure is off you will see that you will respond. But I can promise you that if you are under 40 years old and without any major disease or injury that all of this is in your mind. The mind is the srongest sex organ. Relax dont have sex with anyone that you arent confortable with. Dont buy into , hey to be a guy is to anything that moves. Go for quailty. Unless your confotable anything that moves. But those people usally have other problems like they have a hard time feeling close to anyone. Last thin, there are exercises that you can look up on the net that will increase erections. They are free, dont bother paying. they will help mantain an erection.
im 19 had a gf for like four years weve been broken up for like almost a year now, and ive been with multiple girls and still cant maintain an errection, unless im constantly stimulated i still loose it. I can watch porn n maintain one but once it comes to a girl and foreplay ill get it then loose it as soon as it comes to moving forward... anyone else have this problem? I never used to have this problem and now its haunting me... im tired of being embarrassed infront of girls
man turtle just try to try more four play give you emotions time to flow and trust me you will get erect your mind got to have time to tell you penis that you finna get ready to go to work down their and you will get erect
srlilone, turtle, and trippower. I also have trouble maintaining an erection. I can do it when watching porn no problem fine and dandy. But with a girl, its like after 40 seconds of constant stimulation when i hve to put on a condom or when i have to move her around n get ready to start. I can feel it getting soft. This problem comes and goes, like ill have 2 weeks of it, n then 2 weeks ill be fine. I did my blood work and it shows my hormones are fine. My doctor said its all in my head, i used viagra for a little bit, of course that helped but its expensive and you should not become reliant on it. Naturally, ejaculating when wtih a girl is obviously also an issue. I dont know, ive learned to come to terms with it. Some of us just arnt as lucky.
where did u get the viagra from bc i m nervous to get it online bc of scams but i would like to have good sex a time or two and maybe it will build my confidence, im at a breaking point i need help, nd im only 19
I am 17 teen and the same thing is goin on with me.my girl love to have sex with me but know when she ask me to have sex I alwaste have a excuse I think if I have sex with her my penis will not get fully erected the last time we did it I went and was not fully erected and she said I was soft but hard? And did not satisfy her and that really crushed me .but she still love me and love her what shold I do I feel like im goin crazy because I dont get erected fully and scared to lose her because im love with can and when I go to the doc he says its all n my haed relax somebody help please
im on the same boat as you. im 21, and its something really frustrating, I mean... as a guy, i got:
-a boner when i woke up (most of the times)
-random erections throughout the day, probably spontaneous or maybe because i though a kinky thing.
-full hard erections when i masturbate and succesfully ejaculate.
-while kissing/biting play with my girlfriend (those things you do before penile intercourse) also im rock solid.
when it comes after ive played with my GF to have her wet enough, by giving her an excellent oral, i loose my erection, maybe i was so focused into pleasing her that my penis totally forgot to stay awake, it doesnt happend me often, but when it happends it embarrass me and i feel totally humillated. sometimes we got to the point its semi hard, but everyone here knows that semihard is not enough.
to have a successful intercourse you got to be fully erected, and thats my problem, sometimes it looses off and its really hard to get it back, sometimes it ruins the hot moment and make me feel desperate to get it back on the game, but my pennis refuses to do it... and as soon as my GF is gone, maybe couple minutes after i could get another hard solid erection.... ITS DRIVING ME CRAZY!!!!, why its not working when i need it the most?
by the way when i do alcohol and drugs in general (like weed or ---very rarely--- coke) it happends often, but i dont want to have the excuse of alcohol (or drugs). im afraid that it would happend even if i havent drink or smoke anything? what would be my excuse? not being man enough???? cmon im dying in shame over here...
you guys should stop masturbating to porn PERIOD .... i promise you once you do that it might take from 3 to 6 months of TOTAL abstinence meaning sex, masturbating, porn and etc but you will leave a better man .... Im 20 years old and ive been having this problem since I was 18 ... it wasnt until i started searching for a solution one day THAT I discovered yourbrainonporn.com that aloTta things started to make sense ... Ive been on this trip for almost 7 months and although my libido/erections have still been fluctuating, ive seen glimpses of 100% erections whether it be spontaneous ones or morning wood that i havent seen since i was 15 ... Basically all this is caused by overstimulation ... uve numbed ur sexual responses by too much exposure to porn/masturbation and u need to lay off of it completely in order for ur brain to get its sexual responsiveness back ... website again is yourbrainonporn.com and for the forums u can check out reuniting.info ... Some of you might get discouraged at first becuz things might go well at first but u might or WILL go through a flatline stage or in other words "dead dick" in which u ll feel in a worser situation then when u started, temporarily ... and as you go along through the reboot u might experience a couple of those before u fully heal ... could take u 2 weeks to get back on course or it could be the average of 90 days of no PMO (porn, masturbation, or orgasm) or even a year ... like i said ive been on this no porn thing with just a few occasions/slip ups here and there for about 200 days and im still not fully cured ... still feel like im flatlining but i gotta keep goin ... why? Cuz i kno i cant live my life like this ... using viagra at the age of 18 is definitely not normal ... I realized we're just going through this becuz our brains are alot more sensitive to desensitization then most ppl meaning a reason why we can jerk off to porn only a few yrs and suffer erectile dysfunction/or loss of erection while others could do this for 30 years and still be fine ... Same way some ppl can excessively drink alcohol one weekend and go without it for a month while others might just take one sip and go berserk and end up killing themselves ... yo but anyhow i can guarantee that based on ya ages that 90% of you guys are havin this problems bcuz of too much porn ... masturbation really has to be cut down too but its recommended when starting the reboot not to stimulate urself AT ALL bcuz its heeds to a faster recovery from porn induced ed .... check the websites out anyways, they really changed my life and hopefully it can change urs
I second the L-Arginine statement. It's scientifically proven to increase blood flow throughout your body which in turn leads to incredibly hard and long lasting erections. I can explain the science behind it if you would like but to spare the length I am making it short. I used to use this supplement all the time for my issue (which is why I am on this site now) BUT, the major downfall to this supplement and the reason why I stopped taking it is because L-Arginine aggravates the Herpes Simplex Virus causing more frequent outbreaks. You can do some searching on that as well. Although that theory has not been scientifically PROVEN, I can tell you first hand that the L-Arginine sure has that affect on me. Although I only have HSV1 (oral herpes), I prefer not to have the painful, gross looking sores on my lips. It is a lose-lose situation for me because L-Arginine was my natural Viagra that I found that I couldn't take anymore. So I take the Arginine and get a firm erection and get unpleasant sores that restrict me from having oral contact with my girlfriend or I have a less firm erection that falls short of pleasing her. So if anyone knows anywhere to get REAL Viagra(preferably legally, or as legal as it can get), I would be interested in speaking with them. As for those of you that are fortunate enough to be Herpes Simplex free, I URGE you to use L-Arginine. I used to take about 4 grams of it 30 minutes before sexual stimulation and it would be phenomenal. Good luck guys.
You are right about arginine. However, I have never found capsules more potent than half a gram. Longer treatment with lower doses are another option and probably a better one in long term. I noticed a big positive change with 1 gram daily for a few weeks. I'd recommend taking maca along with it, in case there is something mental behind it.
You can buy Arginine in a powdered form as well which is mixible with a beverage of some sort. I took the 4 grams prior to sex to ensure my lady's satisfaction, but I did use Arginine on a daily regimen for weight lifting, so I had a stable amount of it in my system at all times. The 4 grams seemed to work just right for me, but everyone has to find the dosage their body will utilize best. But keeping it in your system is key, regardless of dosage, body type, or situation you are in.
I've got the same problem.. I'm 18 and when I was dating this girl for 2 years (16-17) I could never fit inside her, but I had no erectile dysfunction issues... However this caused heaps of fights (don't worry, I wasn't accusing her of anything wrong, but somehow she figured it was my fault that I didn't fit...she was a massive b*tch) and now when I try to have sex with other girls, I'm fine leading up to sex but as soon as I even think about it, I lose my erection... And it seems the further on it gets, the worse it gets, because I'm always thinking about it and worried about it happening so inevitably it does happen! Also, the first time that my ex and I tried to have sex, I was really drunk, too drunk to get an erection, so I wonder if that changed anything