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im 13 and pregnant.
my boyfriend wants me to keep it should i?!?!?!
im scared im only in the 8th grade.
i have no idea how to tell my parents any advice?!?!?
can someone please help me?!?!?
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replied July 26th, 2008
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Tell your parents NOW. The longer you wait the worse it'll be. If you want to keep it, keep it. If not there is abortion (depending on how far along you are, and you will need your parents permission I believe) or adoption.

Don't let anyone tell you to do something you don't want to do. If you don't want to abort, don't, it WILL scar you for life if you do it and not want to.

You'll be in my thoughts, good luck!
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replied July 26th, 2008
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first advice, DONT LISTEN TO YOUR BOYFRIEND... its YOUR choice... if you are not ready , and by the way you talk i can tell your probably not, and if you arent 100% sure you want to keep the baby then dont... why not put it up for adoption, give a couple who is ready for parenthood, this baby... You cant even get a job for 3 years to support your baby, do you really want other people supporting you and your baby, and raising your baby? I cant tell you to keep it or not, BUT I WILL TELL YOU to make the decision on your own, because sweetheart i can guaruntee by senior year of high school [ and probably a lot sooner] you will not be with your boyfriend... and then you will be wishing you did what you wanted and not what he wants!....
and the best way to tell your parents, i believe, is how i did... I went to the doctor for a blood test, then a week later, when the results where back, i went in, he told me i was pregnant, and then we called my mom in and he told my mom, then i left and he talked to my mom alone.... but please be mature and tell your mom very soon, because this is very important!
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replied July 26th, 2008
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^ lagringarican787 how old are you? gurr1- you need to tell your parents as soon as possible... there are alot of things you need to be doing, like seeing your Dr. and getting on prenatles. If you dont feel you can handle a child right now then abort, or adopt. It isnt up to your B/F its all you! Good luck.
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replied July 26th, 2008
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preggie meggie wrote:
^ lagringarican787 how old are you? gurr1- you need to tell your parents as soon as possible... there are alot of things you need to be doing, like seeing your Dr. and getting on prenatles. If you dont feel you can handle a child right now then abort, or adopt. It isnt up to your B/F its all you! Good luck.


17 ...why?
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replied July 26th, 2008
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wow thanks yew guys
but still ii really am like super scared to tell my mom
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replied July 26th, 2008
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he really wants a kid and like i dont know how to tell him even if i got an abortion can yew help with tellin him that
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Ask him if he is ready to get two or three jobs to pay for everything. If you want a baby you have to be able to afford a home, food, clothes, utilities, insurance, and a lot more.
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replied July 27th, 2008
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He doesn't really want a kid. He's a kid himself. He thinks he wants a kid. He thinks he wants to play baseball with little kid for ten minutes until the novelty wears out. He doesn't want to wake up every hour in the middle of the night because his baby is crying. He doesn't want to deal with the pregnancy hormones. He doesn't want to work 3 jobs to support a family. He is being very selfish. To tell him, it's very simple, it's your body. Not only will you be the one responsible for this child, it's you that has a chance of dying because your body is not ready to bear children.
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replied July 27th, 2008
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i like tried to tell him and he got mad and started yellin and said no im not lettin yew get and abotion no
and i told him well if yew were me yew would do the same thing and he just kept goin on and grabbed my arm and tried to get me to go with him soo i ran and he is suppossed to be comin over 2night to talk

im still dont want to tell my mom she wouldnt understand
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replied July 27th, 2008
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If he puts his hands on you again, call the police.

No, seriously. I'm not kidding. Call the police. He is not legally allowed to grab you like that against your will.

This is your choice, not his. He can't stop you from getting an abortion, short of locking you in a basement for the rest of your pregnancy. That's illegal too... and I'm pretty sure people would notice you're missing.
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How old is your boyfriend?
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hes 14 turnin 15 on september 4th

he is like just been acting really really wierd since he found out i was pregnant
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Umm, a 14 year old boy is not in any position to demand to be a father. He can't even get a real job for two more years. Who does he expect for pay for his child? His parents? Yours? Is he going to mow lawns to pay for the diapers?

Ridiculous. Tell your parents you're pregnant and ask for help. I know it's scary and I know you don't want to, but once it's out you'll feel so much better. They'll probably be angry and disappointed and probably really sad too, but they're in a better position to help you than your psychotic-sounding 14 year old boyfriend.
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replied July 27th, 2008
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ur right and im soo gonna break up with him 2marro and its like hes the one that made all this happen and i felt i had no say in it

i feel that my mom is gonna kill me but i do need help if ima doo this but it would be better to get an abotion
even though i dont want to
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Remember that abortion isn't your only choice. You can carry the pregnancy to term and give the baby up for adoption, if you think you're strong enough to do that. Abortion isn't for everyone. Adoption isn't for everyone. Parenting isn't for everyone. You have a few different options open to you.

This is something your mother can help you think through. Also, there are teen crisis hotlines that you can call for unbiased advice, as well as pregnancy crisis hotlines. When school begins again, you can also see your school's counselor if you need someone to go to. Or if you have a close friend, maybe you can ask their parents for advice.

For now, don't listen to anybody who tells you "You HAVE to do this". Nobody, not even your mother or father, can force you to do anything. They can't force you to get an abortion if you don't want one - it's against the law. They can't force you to put the baby up for adoption if you don't want to. They can threaten to kick you out if you don't do what they say, but legally they can't force you to make a decision you're not comfortable with. You need to think this through and decide what YOU want to do, what YOU think you can live with. Because at the end of the day, that's what it's going to come down to - the decision you make needs to be one that you'll be able to live with for the rest of your life. You need to know that you made the right decision for you. Even if it's not an easy decision, you need to know that YOU made it and that others didn't make it for you.
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wow ur right agian thanks and i think ill try to tell my mom in a couple days and i dont want to get an abortion and i also dont want to go to school pregnant that would be weird and like my moms gonna make me get ahold of my dad and tell him and hes gonna go off.


but thanks
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replied July 28th, 2008
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Ask him if he is ready to get two or three jobs to pay for everything. If you want a baby you have to be able to afford a home, food, clothes, utilities, insurance, and a lot more.


Lol, I'm 17 we had our first child at 15 turning 16. Like my father said "He'll be working three jobs!!!" Its just a scare tactic, we've made it just working one minimum wage job with him going through college, alone without parental help. You don't need to automatically jump to owning a home depending on what state you live in its either a really good or really dumb idea.


To the original poster of this topic however, you should tell your parents before its too late and you miss all the doctors appointments you should be going to. My personal belief is against abortion because sweetie you had sex that's what happens when you do that sort of thing. Your a big girl, you managed having sex in an almost prepubescent body so you'll be able to manage a child.
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ok but i didnt want ot have sex it wasnt my fault he got me drunk and did this to me and yew know i dont think im ready 4 a child.

i want to finsh school be4 i have a child.

its his fault and my fault 4 goin out with him and goin 2 his house while his parents arnt around.

and i know i cant blame every thing on him.
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replied July 28th, 2008
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mml110989 wrote:

To the original poster of this topic however, you should tell your parents before its too late and you miss all the doctors appointments you should be going to. My personal belief is against abortion because sweetie you had sex that's what happens when you do that sort of thing. Your a big girl, you managed having sex in an almost prepubescent body so you'll be able to manage a child.


What does 'almost prepubescent body' even mean?

Besides, just because you can get pregnant, doesn't mean you are ready to become a parent. This girl needs support for her situation. You have no clue how she may have gotten pregnant and no clue what her personal situation is. She has said repeatedly that she is NOT ready for a child. I think we all need to respect her choice, even if we (you) wouldn't make that choice.

To the OP, please go speak with your mother or your big sister if you have one. Maybe a supportive aunt. You need a supportive adult to turn to right now.
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