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Q: Im 14 and I cut
asked by: livingmistake on February 21st, 2009
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hi my name is reece im 14 and i cut because im sick of my life i dont live with my parents because they kicked me out when i changed all dark and emo and i just recently got kicked out by my grandparents and im currently living with my uncle Sad i feel so alone and not wanted i have even tried overdosing im so scared of dying but i want to if that makes sense... i have no friends well i have nothing so you can see what have i got to live for...:*[
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amvb2008
replied on February 21st, 2009
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you may think things are bad for you right now but everyone has their bad time in life. things can and most likely will get better as you get older. no matter how bad you think things are though, you should never just end it. you kind of have to try to make things better at first which may seem hard but if you dont try then nothing might happen for a while. my sisters 17 now but when she was 15 her friend was going through the same exact thing you are and she did take her life and if she could of seen how many people were affected by it she probably would of been suprised. i'm sure a lot of people care about you whether you see it or not. are you getting kicked outta ur gparents and all cus you did something? maybe they did it cus they thought they werent doing a good enough job and youd be better with your uncle?
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eapple23
replied on February 23rd, 2009
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me tooo
hey. im 14. and i cut. i just relapsed about 2 minutes ago. im so sorry that your life sucks so bad. my friend has a long distance bf named reece who lives in france who is in almost the exact same scenario. if youre him...hi. but anyways, i know what youre going through. im so distant from my family. please know that youre not alone and that theres a bunch of people that love you. no matter who you are. and just know...theres always someone just like you...its just a matter of finding them.
good luck and god bless. much love.
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panda217
replied on March 9th, 2009
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me too sorta
Im 13 and have cut since i was twelve. i just dont see the point of life anymore i dont relii care about much anymore. i have changed so much since i started secondary school i have become more distant from everyone and zoom out a lot of the time i dont enjoy things i used to love anymore and seem tooo annoy everyone, i think about death and killing myself but i dont know if i will it depends how bad i feel. i feel worhtless in this life and i dont know what to do so i if anyone has anything to help me. i would be greatful
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sdaggett
replied on March 13th, 2009
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i was 13 and i cut, i am 40 and happy
here's some words of wisdom from someone who never felt very wise but has since learned so much, i went to college and graduate school for psychology and worked for ten years with teenagers having troubles like you - after all, i was once exactly the same so i became a great counselor "and friend" It was too hard for me not to get invested and emotional while i was helping them so eventually i decided to leave the field entirely until i was more mature to maintain the right boundaries to truly help ppl - so that is my background overview, i also researched cutting professionally and know why down deep you do it, after all i did it too - find something deeper than your skin, go beyond the sensation or no sensation that you feel emotionally and physically before and after you cut - forget all of that ritual = go into your heart and find the little piece that says I love you. Not the part that says it so freely to others, the quiet part that barely whispers it to yourself. Find it as often as you can and love your whole self, by yourself. it doesn't matter who hurt you who abandonded you or who did anything TO YOU. It is time for you to stop think and love yourself because you know you are worthy, down deep you know it, so love yourself now and find out everything good about yourself and embrace it. regardless of how anyone else treats to....i hope you understand what i am saying, i spend so many years in therapy and talking to friends to get to this point of temporary wisdom, at 40 i have different problems, but to be honest, i am just getting the point now about loving myself deeply and how to take good care of myself. i have alway been a great friend but really hard and harmful to myself....try to treat yourself like you would your best friend or your best pet, my dog was my best friend too when I was your age. I told him everything! Anyway, it's not about getting someone to notice, to listen to help, to save you, or do anything with you....it's about you surviving everyday and being gentle and loving to yourself. Pretty soon you will feel good and strong and everyone will see that. they will love you just the same, you just might not get the negative attention anymore, instead you'll see smiles and peace in your heart and everyone elses. there's a part i am leaving out and maybe i will save it for the end, for those who decided to keep reading to the old lady who wants to help....if you were molested or abused in any way - mentally, physically, emotionally - if someone that you trusted or someone that should have known better did something to harm you - know that there is no amount of cutting you can do to release those feelings that are trapped under your skin. you can not heal through harm...ok, you will never accomplish what you think you can by cutting. but you can by inner strength and forgivess, AND if you are being abused now, get some guts, or find a friend with more guts than you and go to a source of help that you know will believe you and be able to stop it today or first thing tomorrow, it is unacceptable and will only get worse. You can do it. God didn't create you so you could damage yourself further. I am not even that religious, I just remember at your age Madonna talking about her body being her temple, and you know it still seems like it makes sense. Take care of yourself, gently and you'll make it one step at a time.
Peace.
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Tarimisu
replied on April 9th, 2009
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Reese's help
Hello, Reese.
I am fourteen also, and I cut myself, too. It just seems to help, doesn't it? The way I put it is that, "I want to kill myself, but I don't want to die." Does that help at all? I know that SI really helps for a few minutes, even longer sometimes, but when you don't have love or respect from those who are supposed to love you; your life goes downhill.
I have had a very difficult childhood, and I guess I always assumed I'd be where I am now. Although I am a Christian, I still self-injure because I can't see of any other way out of my emotional depression.
I am in counseling, and I suggest--if you can handle it--to give it (counseling) a try.
Thinking about you...
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shawndra
replied on April 9th, 2009
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finally im not alone
i am 13 and i cut... i got kicked out of my momz,grandmaz, and i am currently living with my uncle 2... my mom made me transfer schools 2 keep me frm my frenz because she thot it was thur fault i was turning emo... truth is they tried to make me stop but i ddnt really want 2 because everytime i messed up or felt worthless it helped...i thot i was alone... since this experience death seems kind of welcoming and im not afraid to die at all...except 4 the fact that i no god would be disappointed in wat im doing now...maybe someday i will stop but for rite now itz the only thing i have.
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Tarimisu
replied on April 13th, 2009
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I don't know what to say...
Honestly, shawndra, it does always seem like it's there, doesn't it? And you're right...God isn't very happy with what we're doing, but we need to try and find something...idk, "healthier" to use?
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i_cut_to
replied on April 17th, 2009
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:(
i'm really sorry. i feel really bad for you. i cut and i'm 13, and i know how hard life is. i know what you mean when you say you want to die, and i know how you feel. i only have one true friend and he used to cut to. he's trying to get me to stop but i can't. i'm so sorry about your situation. my parent don't like the "emo" scene and neither do my brother or sister. non of them know i cut. its so hard. but try to get through. i know sometimes it seems really bad, and i'm not saying that what you're going through is easy adn im sure i'd be doing the same if i was in your situation, just know i'm here if you need to talk and i hope things get better. remember there's a light at the end of the tunnel. you're tunnel seems kinda long, but if u just live through it you'll be happier. try to keep with us. i'm so sorry about your situation and if you need to talk, let me know. *hugs*
-Kate
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