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I want to help my sister but don't know how :(

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There is no doubt that my sister has an eating disorder. It is like nothing i have ever known before though.
I myself have battled with food ever since i can remember and i do know that i did and still do, everything in my power to stop other people from knowing. The majority of my family and friends still do not know the battle i have, all they ever say to me is that i need to put some weight on because i am skinny.
My sister though is completely different. She makes it blatantly obvious that she has food issues. She will make suggestions to go out for something to eat and then sit there with nothing whilst everyone else eats. So that the attention is all on her.
She will post things on forums and social websites saying things like 'i'm fat' or 'i need to go on a diet' or 'i'm not going to eat for a week' knowing full well that there will be loads of comments saying 'there's nothing of you!'
She goes to peoples houses and will make a point of having chocolate or a biscuit then spits it out in the sink without washing it down, so that someone will see it. Therefore nearly everyone who knows her, knows she has a problem.
She constantly talks about not eating and really does thrive on people knowing that she is starving herself or purging. She is ridiculously thin (was a size 12 now a size 6/Cool so she actually does starve or purge, so there is more to it than just attention seeking. She is so obvious about it that her 5 year old daughter knows what she does. My niece knows that her mummy makes herself sick and also doesn't like to eat unhealthy food. Its heartbreaking to see.
I do believe she went to see the doctor about a year ago, but either she didn't go or they were of no help whatsoever because she seemed to get worse rather than better.
I'm at a point now were i do not want to spend time with her because it totally dominates and dictates everything we do. I have been as supportive as i possibly can be(with suffering myself). I just don't know what to do, i do want to help her and know that i am the only person that can but how?
This probably all sounds very confusing, but it in reality none of it makes sense! I would appreciate ANY advice!
If you have got this far thank you very much for reading x
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replied April 11th, 2012
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Hi Zayne and welcome to ehealth: Have you talked with her husband/partner about this problem?....How about your parents?...Could they help get her back to some sound thinking...I think she should see some professional who deals with this disease....The best thing to do is to get her back to a doctor and go from there....Take care...

Caroline
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