The leg clenching is normal. But not being able to orgasm is not. You either have something physical or psychological wrong with you. Psychologically speaking, it could be something as simple as feeling so strongly that sex and masturbation are 'bad' that you are unable to achieve orgasm. Whatever the reason, I suggest you get a physical and gynecological exam. If physical causes are ruled out as the problem, I would then consider therapy to overcome your problem.

I don't think sex is a bad thing at all though

Like I said, it could be caused by a physical problem. That's why I suggested that you get a complete physical and gynecological exam.

I don't think that not being able to have an orgasm is NOT NORMAL. Maybe you just haven't found exactly what's right for you. Keep trying, don't focus on the end, just enjoy the journey there. Female orgasms are a strange and beautiful thing, don't worry about it as long as you're enjoying yourself. You're completely normal.

I don't orgasm either and also masturbate frequently (sometimes until my finger prunes). I don't think I ever will. According to my psychology book, men have only one standard track for sex(excitement, plateau, orgasm,) but women have three standard tracks one is multiple orgasm towards the end, one is orgasm in the middle, and the last is quivering at the plateau--never reaching orgasm.

According to a sexual health article I read many women never orgasm but still want to indulge in sexual activities and thouroughly enjoy them. Furthermore, some women can orgasm, but only through external stimulation of the clitoris. These women do not orgasm during penetration.

I, as a college-freshman virgin lesbian, may not be in a position to hand out sexual advise. Even from a psychological standpoint, I'm in no position (especially considering that I watched my mother go through three highly abusive relationships) But that is exactlly why I've been doing my research on "normal" female sexuality.

Trust me, there's a wide definition of "normal" in female sexuality.

I dont' orgasm usually either. I'm 26 now, and I think I've had a total of maybe 4 or 5 orgasms (although am still not certain if they count or not:S).

Like you guys, I masturbate and enjoy it, I have sex and enjoy it, although penetration does very little for me I admit.

I tend to find that unless I'm in the Exact right frame of mind, my own mind and body want to stop after a while because it starts to become painful rather than pleasureable.

From people I've spoken to (and I am in contact with quite a few when it comes to this subject), it truly is quite a common occurance.

My theory is, as long as I'm enjoying myself regardless, it really doesn't matter how it ends. Enjoy what you do, stop trying to get to orgasm,the more you try, the more you're focussed on why it's not happening and the less you will enjoy it. The less you enjoy it,the less the chance of it actually happening. Just do what comes naturally and don't worry about it. Whatever happens, is perfectly normal for you. That's really all that matters.

I'm 28 & I've never orgasmed. I was a virgin when I married my husband of 5 years now, but unfortunately I was raped on our wedding night by our limo driver. I was waiting in the car for my new husband to return from the front desk at the hotel. I've gotten therapy for the rape, but I wonder alot that if it never happened - would I have been able to orgasm with my husband.
Are there any suggestions? I'm open to anything.

ok, not too sound young or anything, but what is an orgasm? I'm not gonna have sex till im married, but I really still just want to understand what it is... plus I dont want to acually start a topic about this cause it just wouldnt be good... if you could help out, that would be great. Thanks.