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Q: I think my husband is bi or gay

asked by: exhaustedndconfused on May 28th, 2009

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Lets see, how do i start out? First off i have caught my husband on the internet chatting with women.. I have found a few sites that were bi males.. This has not been recent with the websites.. My husband works out of town sometimes, well he comes home tomorrow from being out of town.. He is rooming with a buddy that i think is bi.. The reason i think this buddy is bi is all the text my husband gets from here are gay jokes.. Well yesterday i tried calling my husband and he didnt answer his phone so i tried his buddies number and he didnt answer.. I knew they were in the hotel room. Finally after 15 minutes my husband calls me back and says he was in the shower... He gave me the excuse his buddy didnt know the number so he didnt answer his phone.. But i have called from this number before and he answered... So i became very upset, he told me i was starting crap and he would talk to me later... So he started to hang up on me and i called him a human and hung up.. He called back and told me F--- you! That our marriage is done... We have been married for almost 16 years, we have both done wrong and have gotten thru it.. I love him dearly but am so scared i am the last one to know whats going on... I know i shouldnt have said what i did but my emotions got the best of me.. When i was calling i had the gut feeling of him doing somtething with this guy.. What to do or not to do..I dont have anyone to talk to ..I have asked and he denies, says it is just gross.PLEASE HELP

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JavaMissus

replied on May 28th, 2009

Moderator

I think the main thing that you should be concerned about is that if your husband is having sexual relations with another man, would be the disease factor...This is serious...If you have any proof or big questions in your mind, have him wear a condom...How you go about doing this is another problem...

This is something that the two of you must talk through...How you are going to handle it I really don't know...I try to put myself in this position and like you, I would be devastated...One thing I do know, at least it is my opinion, is that a woman can never battle another man for satisfaction in sex with her partner...Man on man will win...

What you said to him is what you felt in your heart...You are probably right...I am sorry but I cannot advise you on something that I know nothing about...I send you all my love and best wishes...

Caroline

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breck08

replied on June 2nd, 2009

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Trust your gut. Thats what women intuition is all about. What you said was said in anger. If you feel you need to apologize then do it. Your husband responded in a defensive attitude. Only you know your husband enough to know the truth. It is hard for anyone to help you with this because we are just reading one side and their are always two sides to a story. For someone to jump in and say yes, your husband is gay do this.......well that would be unjustifiable. Good luck!

Kodak

replied on June 3rd, 2009

Supporter

Wow! 16 yrs. I hope he wouldnt throw it all away so easily on and accusation!?! Obviously you two need to discuss this matter in person and not over the phone for starters.

All I feel u need to do is simply ask him not pressuring him or anything, maybe to get a better response than before. I have a small feeling that he may be hiding something I just dont see the reasoning for such an emotional question. He shouldnt have just ran away like he did.

And with the 2 of u being togethor for so long I know u 2 have went through worse. Just try to talk the matter over, maybe even ask him if a 3some is a good idea and see his reaction to a male or female. (just a suggestion) Using jokingly to see a possible desire with the same sex in some way.

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