hi, not that u want to hear this, but find a better mate in life
do u want to be without children
or r u willing to risk giving a life long mental illness to YOUR CHILD with him
if he had AIDS would u be looking for reasons to plan a life together
if he treated your mother and father the way he treats u would u be asking questions; BECAUSE he is suppose to love and respect u WHILE mom and dad don't have that honor, is he going to somehow be different with them, or your child
hope u figure it out