My husband of a little more than 4 years and I have been fighting a lot lately. Finally last weekend, he was very distant... and after two days of barely speaking, I confronted him about it on my way to work(I work overnights, one of our many problems). He told me he thought I should go stay with my parents... but he refused to tell me why. I broke down and begged to know why but still nothing. The next day I called him and he still wouldn't tell me what exactly was happening but that he needed time to think about it. I pushed him and he finally broke down and told me he loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore. He said he got tired of trying to make things better all the time because I never accepted blame or apologized for any of our fights. I decided to give him the time he needed but always felt that it wouldn't make any difference. And I was right... when we met this past weekend, I apologized for my many mistakes over the past months. But he told me he'd made up his mind... and he was done. He hadn't even heeded to the advice of anyone, including his parents who he goes to for everything. During the week we had apart, I'd realized the mistakes I'd made during the past few months... but I also realized why I'd become the way I am. I became a bitter and resentful person because we never saw each other and because he never helped me around the house and I pushed him away because of it. I felt like his maid and sometimes that was exactly how he treated me. Well now he refuses to take my calls or texts and is on a one way road to divorce. He is also just being mean about things. My birthday was during the week we had a part and he didn't even bother to call or text me. How wrong is that? Also during the week we were apart I found out he'd been talking to a female friend behind my back for the past two months. He would call her the minute I left for work... and then during the middle of the night and the minute he woke up... and all day long. He told me she was just a friend and that she was the only person he could talk to about our problems... but he didn't talk to me!!! I had no idea things were that bad... I just thought it was a rough spot. And now he won't even let me try to make things better... he didn't even let me know it was my last shot. I don't even know if I want to stay with him... I go back and forth every day and I'm sure that will continue. But I just miss him because I'm so used to talking to him everyday. I'm staying with my parents and he wants me to continue to help with mortgage and I guess I have to...but it's just not fair. I know life isn't fair... but this just sucks. And I can't stop thinking about this... it's is taking over my life and I don't know how to make it better. I'm just so confused. HELP!!!