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I think I really like a black guy!

Few weeks ago I met a black guy, I always date just white guys and don't have any experience in dating someone like him. I know for sure most of my friends and my family won't support this kind of relationships, but keep thinking about him all the time. I was raised and born in Europe surrounded by white people, where dating with a black guy was smth outstanding. I'm in despair and absolutely don't know what to do. HELP!
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replied January 24th, 2009
re:liking this black man
well wots the problem if you like him n he likes you then thats all that should matter at the end of the day those white guys you say you always date cant be doing you that much good if your single. you should give this guy a try not beacause hes black but because you like him. imagine this is your one chance of happiness and because of what people think you miss it n u spend the rest ov your life a miserable spinster(slight exaggeration). dating "someone like him" shouldnt be no different to dating a white guy as they all have the same anatomy and pigs or good guys come in shades and shapes. go on a date and see how it goes dnt rush into anything because i seems like you have to evaluate if you are strong enought to cope with the racial predjuice you and him will receive from both the ignorant black people that will stare you out and the ignorant whote people that ill stare him out. every1 needs to get over themselves and mind their own biz ur fam n friends should be happy for you as long as the guy no matter what colour treats you like a princesss.
good luck n let us know what happens.
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Users who thank babygurl08 for this post: Zolushka 

replied May 28th, 2012
should I kiss him?
I have such a crush on a guy I met dancing. We did go on a date and it fizzled. Then when we saw each other again on the dance floor, he danced with only me all night. I am years after a divorce but still in rejection issues. When we meet at a club he dances with me only all night. Then we go home on the train and peck a good night kiss and go home alone. He steals kisses on the dance floor and I freeze up. We're not alone. I know it's my problem but I don't want him to give up. Should I just grab him and kiss him? He must be shy also or wouldn't he be more aggressive. If he didn't lose interest, next time we are dancing together, I'm gonna steal a kiss on the lips. We have exchanged telephone #s. Should I text him that I'm really shy about certain things??? I'm afraid he'll be onto someone else if I don't move fast.
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replied January 24th, 2009
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My boyfriend is BLACK. And no one in my family supports me or my community but we don't care. We love each other. I love him to death. It's hard but we did it. And there is nothing wrong with liking someone a different color. In my opinion they are better lovers. *-* I have two pics of us together on myspace if you want to see us. I have more but he doesn't let me put them on.
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replied January 24th, 2009
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My boyfriend is BLACK. And no one in my family supports me or my community but we don't care. We love each other. I love him to death. It's hard but we did it. And there is nothing wrong with liking someone a different color. In my opinion they are better lovers. *-* I have two pics of us together on myspace if you want to see us. I have more but he doesn't let me put them on. ----->


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replied January 26th, 2009
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I don't see anything wrong with dating a black man.

Wendy
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replied June 2nd, 2009
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it's a shame that society is this way. i knew a white girl who had a baby by a black guy. she said they love her daughters complexion, but they're not speaking to her. the black guy was physically abusive, so that made it worse.

i am a black female, i've dated white guys and people in my neighborhood didnt like it. we got the dirty looks. this guy i've dated 10 years ago he would buy me gifts, and take me out to resturants, but never brought me over his house, as if he's scared someone will see him with a black chick.

another b/f i had was gorgeous italian guy and his mother told him to be careful b/c he doesnt know my neighborhood.

another white guy i talked to said his family dont like it, but they will give me respect.

one of my best b/f's are white and i will never forge him as long as i live.
i stop dating white guys it just seems like a hassle. but if i meet someone great it doesnt matter, but i m not going out looking for it.
of course i dont see the big deal. you should do what you want.
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replied June 2nd, 2009
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if you really like this guy, then race shouldnt matter, and neither should peoples opinions.
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replied September 1st, 2009
Yes this is a relevant topic to discuss especially now a days there is no limit to trying in something out of the box or go beyond the normal culture that we are taught so.

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replied September 2nd, 2009
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Every guy you've dated has been like this guy. He has two legs, a penis and a thing for you and it really is that simple. There's nothing magical about skin, it's a coating to protect our musculature and ligaments. If people in your life see the skin on a man as anything different, then it's clear you need to get some different people in your life.
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replied September 7th, 2009
Dating somebody you really like is very exciting so don't worry what other people will say if you are going to a black guy it's your life and follow your heart, goodluck!

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replied August 4th, 2010
im a white male in love with a black girl but we are both a bit afraid of what people think, though i will protect her with my life and never want to lose her
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replied August 31st, 2010
If he makes you happy, go for it. Your friends and family will see how happy you are together and will hopefully accept your relationship in time.
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replied November 9th, 2010
I know this post is old but, I just wanted to give my thoughts. I am a black woman dating a Puerto rican man and we are so in love. His entire family is very supportive of our relationship and loves me very much. In fact, they keep asking us when are we going to get married so they can plan the wedding.

You can't choose who you love, but you do have a choice in who you choose not to love. Don't let anyone's thoughts and opinions cause you to pass up something that could last a lifetime.

I sure didn't--my family was not so happy with our relationships. They stereotyped him way too much.

I SAY GO FOR IT Smile
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replied November 12th, 2010
lol at "caca" i actually wrote Shi*
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replied November 25th, 2010
As a biracial woman, I wasn't sure if I should laugh or be offended when I saw this thread. Seriously? It's such a shame society is still like this. If he's a good person to be around and you're attracted to him, date him. If he's not, then don't. Your family and his family can get over their prejudice. It's almost 2011. It's time we move past this...
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replied June 2nd, 2012
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As a working class Englishman with, I hope, an open mind I am willing to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and a fair hearing...

I will converse with anyone and be prepared to like them and if either of my daughters had dated black or brown guys (or blue or green or any colour) I would have supported their choices.
Apart from my natural curiosity and keenness to learn I see it as my Englishman's duty to be inclusive and accepting, especially as those who are born here have the right to be treated and respected also as English, irrespective of the colour of their skins...

Prejudice of any sort is really a manifestation of very bad manners...
Unfortunately, most of our immigrant residents and citizens and many of their offspring are not so open-minded and inclusive and have few inhibitions about displaying the sort of bad manners I refer to as they seek to maintain home-country cultures and customs, alien religious practices and family values - some of which are positively medieval!

The Muslim community seems to be the worst offender - most of the news stories indicate the possibility of serious and violent repercussions against "mixed" dating...
Most of the immigrant populations here display varying levels of anti-social and uncommunicative behaviour, prejudice, anger, frustration or suspicion towards their English hosts or co-citizens. This is something, the understanding of which, defeats me and is quite franky something that feels like a personal insult...

The sooner someone passes a law making it mandatory to only date and to breed with other colours and cultures, the better it will be...
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replied June 9th, 2012
Black is not a problem
I think black or white is not a problem. The point is how do you feel about him? How is his characteristic and the way he treat you? And how you feel when youre next to him, do stuffs and go out with him? If you had a crush on him, let things go naturally. Just make sure that he'll never hurt you or cheat on you. That's all right.
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