What feelings? You haven't really said anything that's helpful. What do you feel about men that you would be ashamed of?

im attracted to them sexually but the feelings dont really go beyond that, the only exception is with this guy that ive known since 10th grade but as far as i know hes straight..but im also attracted to women and ive had several girlfirends..what else should i say?

Have you had sex with eith males or females or both? I happen to believe that a person is gay or bisexual if they have a compulsive sexual desire for the same sex, even if they never act on it.

ive fooled around with guys but never had sex i was kinda scared to do it with em..but i have with girls..its weird to me cuz ive never had sex with a guy but im attracted to them sexually does that make sense?

Just as a recovering addict continues to call themselves an alcoholic even though they no longer drink, I think a person that has sexual desire for the same sex, even if they never act on it, is gay or bisexual. I'm not going to tell you these feelings are right or wrong, or tell you not to think about men in this way. You can choose to identify yourself however you want (gay, straight or bi) but it won't change your feelings about men. You need to try to come to terms with your desires and gain some kind of peace with yourself.

I agree fully with deteragram. And why is this on the Mental Conditions Forum? DDD=

Being bisexual is not a mental disorder.

It sounds like you are bisexual if you enjoy sexual activity with both men and women. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of or to worry about. You might feel better to tell someone you trust (though presumably if you have had sexual activity with men then SOMEONE knows). They're reassurance that they see you no differently could make you feel more at peace with yourself.

Being gay, straight or bisexual should have no consequences for you in life. You lead it however you want to lead it. Be sure to use protection during sexual activity, tell both men and women that you are involved in that you like to be with the other sex also (just out of honesty and because the truth may come out someday and your partner could be hurt) and always be fair and loyal to partners, never cheat or do anything to hurt another's feelings. If you are doing these things you have no reason to feel ashamed or worried.

If you need someone to talk to who has had similar experiences it might be helpful for you to join a bisexual society or internet forum where you can feel part of a group of people who enjoy both sexes as you do.

Good luck

I don�t think you are gay ate all. Having a sexual attraction towards the same gender comes from many things. sometimes looking at porn movies or the desire to explore new stuff. like exploring new food or new sport. produce these thoughts. Personally i use to be attracted to girls and find them sexier than guys but i couldn�t tell anyone. But one day when a lovely girl approach me tried to kiss me i felt disgusting. I discovered they were only thoughts but when it comes to action it doesn�t feel right. Don�t watch or read stuff that stimulates these thoughts , because its not you. Gay people know that they are gay at a very early age. And choose right don�t destroy your life. Gays end up with no family no kids. My gay friends suffer a lot no life no family. And plenty of deadly diseases.at this age i discovered alot of people have thoughts but they are stright

Gay people don't know from a young age. I went out with a gay guy for over a year (knowing he was gay, christ do I have issues! Ha!) and he did not know he was gay until he was 24. (repression is a powerful thing).

I also don't think gay people destroy their lives, nor can they "choose". I know many very happy gay men. Including gay couples who've been together for 20 years and gay people can marry and adopt children if they want a family. Deadly diseases affect hetrosexual people too and, in fact, hetrosexual women is the one of the demographics with the highest growing HIV rate.

I'm not having a go. I'm sure you meant well. But the way you worded your reply almost sounded like it was somehow unfortunate to be gay, or that it should be avoided. If this guy enjoys his sexual encounters with men he should continue to enjoy them.

i didn't mean any harm. but that’s my personal point of view. i don’t think being gay is normal. why did god created women if guys can marry and have children. Another thing i have some gay friends they made many researches about gays. they discover some researches that shows that when a gay reaches 40 years old a lot of them commit suicide. because they do not have a normal family and they can't have their own children. don't make it easy honey for other people. because according to the real world its not. and that’s the honest truth.once you open this door you can hardly close it.some gays were born like that and they are very few wile other gays are not they just want to have fun and try it but they are not gay they just distroy thier life come visit our hospitals and see how much they suffer i swear all the guy couples whom come to visit suffers from HIV, aids, and a lot from cancer and bloody anal.if you care about some one try to protect him from suffering.don't make it easy till he goes and snick and face a life that makes him miserable. people pretend they are happy but they are dyeing from inside. I know a lot of gays whom when i asked them if am a gay cause i think i like girls all of them tried to fix me with other girls they wish i would be like them.if they did care they would make sure not through me like that with any girl.

mariah79 come on

being gay isnt normal???? hello wat is normal. look at the world we live in, so many different kinds of people nothing can truely be said to be normal. and just about all gay people know it when they are young. also there are many more ways to destroy your life than being gay. many ppl suffer from HIV and AIDS. btw wat does cancer have to do with it????? besides no one can die from any of those things or anything else UNLESS its there time to meet the father anyway..... oh and befor you go telling me that gay people are unhappy and misserable and most kill them selves by age 40 look at all the failing heterosexual marriages and unhappy heterosexual people

hey maria the same thing is happenning to me also. my mother suffer from mental illness and i do think i will suffer from that also. I feel these thoughts that people have about being with gays and lesbians are thoughts that you achieve of depression and you you are sad and are thinking the same thing. My first thought that i had was that i was going to kill my mother and brother. I was so affraid of these thoughts that i had to be taking pills to go to sleep so i dont think about that. That did not mean i was going to do it just thoughts your mind can think anything even things that you will never do.

mariah79
Do you really beleive God created gays so good Christians would have people to behave monsterously towards? Perhaps he created them to test your ability to be Christian, something to think about before you pass judgement on one or vote to deny them the same rights you enjoy. I don't mean to alarm you but 100% of the straight people who go to hospitals are also experiencing health problems, thousands more of them die every day than gay people. If you're straight for health reasons perhaps you should re-think things.

caprich96
Homosexuality isn't a depression symptom. Even back in the time when psychology considderred homosexuality a disorder it didn't recognize a connection. If you know a gay person who seems sad you might look at how you and others treat them. It's very difficult to go through life constantly having to deal with people who think there's something wrong with you because won't hide who you are.