I met this man I was 23,I had 2 children of my own and he was a divorcee of 29 with 1 child as well. We hit it off really well, our children loved each other and everyone got along great.
After 2 yrs we had our child, it was going great! Then we moved next door to my mother and her husband. They owned 2 homes,everything was going great we had our ups and downs of course but it was fine. Mostly I would say our problem was a usually conflict of inlaws. My mother was disliking my husband more and more. Due to our financial hardships, but it didn't bother me we had what we needed not luxury but we were doing fine.
We got married after 5 yrs of being together, my mother was so upset she made herself physically ill. Why cause I believe she had lost control of me... As a child I was my mothers mother more than her mine...due to her relationships she has with her boyfriends. and conflict with her mother.
a few yrs went by and my mother decided to move back to the country she was born in because (I call it her midlife crisis)
We ended up having to loose the house due to the separation and her move.
A few year went by...I found out my husband and my oldest daughter slept together. They both told me I didn't know what to do with the situation at all. they both claimed it just happend... I tried to get help with family, friends, doctors, church...didn't get much help what so ever for myself.
I had left him for a few moths and we got back together, in this process we lost a baby. after a while I left again. I always was told I was being controlled by him from my mother. So this time to be with my mother in her country and my kids. By now my kids are 12-17-21.
I ran back to my husband again. with my son and the youngest of my daughter this caused conflict with my mother and oldest daughter. I missed my oldest daughter terribly and needed to see her so again I left my husband to come back.
I miss my husband no one but my son likes him. I love him. He is not perfect no one is, I have hurt him many a times by leaving.We love each other very much, but my mother and daughters seem to hate him and confuse me...cause I have left him with noting now for the 3rdnd time. He would be willing to take me back... My daughters and mother wouldn't want us back together. I would have to give you more details to explain it all but it would be too long.
What would you do? Should I try to fix my marriage or let it be and live with my mother and children. No matter where I am I am not satisfied becuase someone I love is missing... help me plz