I regret my abortion (Page 4)

lol I don't get the logic in telling a woman who views her unborn child as a baby that it the unborn child was not a baby.

Bigboybry, those are tough words coming from someone who could never be pregnant- a male I presume. Some women who get abortions should never ever be mommies and we should all rejoice that they don't spawn and would probably be just another Andrea Yates, not ALL women are. You don't know why every woman gets an abortion but nobody should be forced into parenthood by conception, male or female just that women get to abort the spawn while men get to walk away and deny the spawn. Some women who have babies DO become like the likes of Andrea Yates and kill mercilessly, all of her innocent children. Would you raher these people have children and molest, abuse, kill, mistreat, starve or neglect them? Resent them even? Children need love like all other huan beings at every stage of their lives and some people simply can't love babies or children ad a career or education at the time or ever for that matter. They just don't have the ability so they need abortions.

Some women have abortions because they realised the ejaculating apen who fathered the sperm-omelet is a waste-of-oxygen craptastic loser whose DNA needs to be wiped from the planet. Is that what happened to you, bigboy?

I have zero regrets for aborting and I will do it again in a New York minute if my contraception fails and I conceive again. I don't give a fat rat's behind what some meathead on the internet thinks about me. I know I did not do anything wrong.

I had an abortion when I was hardly 16 years old, in fact i had only been 16 for about 2 months. I regret it everyday, it was a decision I made in fear and through irrational thinking because of my age and lack of maturity.
I wouldnt wish the pain I feel upon my worst enemy, i was found to have depression and now must seek intensive counselling, due to my depression I missed out on alot of things with my friends, I can no longer go to dances or have fun without feeling guilty and have become extremely unhealthy in my habits.
The fact of the matter is, and this is coming from a scientific point of view which you can research on the internet if you'd like, ANYONE under 20 years of age or possibly even more is incapable of fully understanding the consequence of their action due to the frontal lobe (which proccesses ALL emotions and decisions linked to making the choice of abortion) is simply not fully developed. Is this to say that they're incapable of making decisions? Of course not, this cannot be used as an excuse to murder someone, break the law, it is not a matter of them not knowing what they are doing but rather not understanding the full ramifications of these actions after the fact.
We live in a world where you cannot drink legally until the age of 19 (in canada) or 21 in the states. You can't even get a simple, non life-threatening ear piercing until 18 in most parts of canada without your parents signature! you can't drive until 16, heck you cant even drive past midnight in NB until you're 18 years old!
And what is the reasoning for these laws? Because anyone under 19 or 21 isnt "responsible" enough to understand the full ramifications of drinking too much according to the government. Because you cannot make informed decisions about an ear piercing until 18. Because you cannot possibly understand the severity of driving irraticaly until 16. After midnight, if you're under 18 you simply cannot be trusted on the roads. It ALL goes back to lack of understanding, lack of judgement and lack of emotional equipability.
Therefore i'm wondering why I, not even 2 months after my 16th birthday, was able to get an abortion, or in other words; go to a hospital, be put under medication, have my legs put into stirrups while a doctor medically ripped a child out of my uterus. IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE. these girls are too young to understand what they are truly doing. The sense of panic and fear, of what people at school would think, what their boyfriend will think of their new shape and what relatives will say over power their already non-developed ability to make conscience decisions and understand that they are ending a pregnancy.
The number of cases where women regret an abortion is incredible. this is a procedure that has only been legally allowed for a little over 20 years, here anyway. Just like anything else, we are now just discovering the ramifications of abortion and I hope that these surface by the time I'm old so young girls don;t have to go through the torture I did.
Post Abortion Stress Syndrom is a real thing, ask the girls who go through it and the psychologists who treat them.
No 13 - 18 year old girl deserves to cry over the death of their child, the trauma associated with the procedure, the lies told to them by those urging her to have the abortion and the constent resentment of pregnant women, children and anything else that reminds them of this catastrophe.
Teenagers should be exploring life, making friends and preparing themselves for life. not wishing they had children, not dealing with depression.
100 years ago people of color werent considered people either. I bet had there been internet there would have been people debating about their status as a human being too. Probably the same filthy people who sit here and lobby to murder innocent fetus's. But now how stupid do those people look? people of color are now welcomed people of society, personally being of white descent im disgusted with the ways my ancestors acted.
I'm pro-life because someday when my grandchildren talk of how disgusting it was to consider a fetus non-human, simply because you cannot see it beneath the skin of the women carrying it, I'll proudly be able to say that I was no part of that and despite the fact that I had an abortion i havent stopped fighting since and my unborn child will never go unforgotten.

How about we just treat women like the human beings they are and respect their intelligence enough to let them make their own decisions and mistakes. There's a novel idea.

Oh, wait...prolifers don't really see PEOPLE when they look at women, do they? At best, they see mature bodies endowed with a child's mind, to be used as chattel for reproduction.

How else would you explain the constant infantilizing of grown women? They lie through their teeth, manipulate, patronize and even intimidate women to keep them in check and ensure they don't make a reproductive decision they disagree with.

The hypocritical twits that make poor decisions for themselves and then turn around and try to take that choice from other women are the worst ones of all.

Not every woman is a weak-willed, wishy-washy fool that thinks no woman should have a choice just because she made the wrong one for herself.

Own up to your own decision and leave the rest of us alone. We don't need men to babysit us just because you lack a mind of your own.

"Abortionhurts" - I'm sorry you regret your abortion but I disagree with some of the things you have written. I was 19 when I had my abortion and I was fully informed and aware of what I was doing. I haven't once regretted that decision.

With regard to why people are unable to drink yet consent to medical procedures this is to do with the rights to have control over treatments done to oneself - it would be unfair if parents were allowed to consent (or not) to medical procedures for someone capable of making their own decision. Alcohol (here 1 is a social problem, hence having restrictive laws, making the decision to abort is personal.

There is something called 'Gillick competence' here which decides whether minors are able to make decisions about medical treatment themselves. That is if someone under 18 is able to understand the risks of a procedure (not just abortion), the potential outcomes, intended outcomes, any possible side effects, the likely outcomes should one not have the procedure then they are able to make the decision themselves.

I know a foetus is human. It isn't a person which is a different matter but I don't "lobby" for abortion. I simply believe that women have the right to make their own decisions about whether or not they want to continue a pregnancy. Just because you regretted yours doesn't mean other people do - you don't have the right to take away the choices of others simply because it didn't work out for you. You made your decision and it may not have been right for you but what makes you think YOUR bad decision means it's more important than other people's?

I had 2 abortions within 6 months of each other at 24/25. When growing up I never would have imagined that this would happen to me... but I guess life takes unexpected twists and turns. I do regret my decisions but also can look back with some compassion for myself. At 24 even though in theory I should have been mature enough to handle having a baby, I really under-estimated myself and felt I couldn't do it. My partner through a phone book at me and told me to 'get rid of it'. I told my mum I thought I was pregnant and her reply was 'you better not be'. I was overwhelmed so the next day told my mum it was just a scare and had now come on my period. I hadn't of course...but felt I had to be secretive. I had the abortion. Looking back I had no medical support before hand and was ill-informed of the choice I was making. I had no counselling support offered and became anxious afterwards. I convinced myself I might now be infertile and also convinced myself I wanted to try again. 6 months later I became pregnant again. Again all the anxieties I had the first time around resurfaced leading me to regretably make the same decision again. I could understand people questioning - how could you do it twice?...but I homestly think women need counselling after an abortion and if you don't have counselling anxiety can effect the decisions you make.

6 years later I had a planned pregnancy and miscarried...it devastated me and bought back all the grief and emotion of the decisions I made in my 20s. I do regret my decision and wish there was more psychological support for women before hand as anxiety can make you make rushed decisions. I don't feel good about what I did...I just send love to all women in a similar decision and pray you make the right decision for yourselves and don't be afraid to ask for help before making your decision.

Abortion is a right of any woman, but it can be a weapon against us.
I am pregnant and I actually want the baby. The father wants to get rid of it, and in his mind that fact that I can have an abortion means I have to.
My mother - yes, my mother - told me that being a single mom will ruin my life and my career, and she does not understand why I haven't terminated the pregnancy yet.
Nobody seems to care that I do not want to terminate my pregnancy, and abortion is the excuse not to help me. Why am I asking for help when I can solve all my problems with an abortion?
I have always been PRO-ABORTION, for me was a fundamental right of women. But now I am seeing the other side of the coin: as society violated woman's body with unwanted pregnancy, also inducing to abortion is a violation of women's rights and a disrespect of our body.

You forgot to mention that RV is a Catholic anti choice organisation. I would suggest people seek out a qualified counsellor/therapist....your family doctor should be able to refer you to one.

I don't care if women from all denominations are welcome, it's still a Catholic organisation and it's not a qualified counselling centre with unbiased professionals on board. If I need my appendix out, would I let wannabe doctors do it? No way.

if you are truly sorry for your actions! you can ask for god for forgiveness, he will forgive for he loves you very much,i pray that you will find peace and happines