Today I Gave him a lot of leeway.i thought that as long As I did not complain about back pain or that sex was too long or that his two hr search for the perfect porn to help him get past his inability to climax without booze. I don't want him to bring home booze for having sex and say it it all for me and my back problems because with booze he climaxes better. I don't want to be his reason for resorting to drinking again.
How long has he been sober? It doesn't sound very long. You need to accept that fact that 1.his body from quitting my need time to get back to what is normal and that's just a waiting period without drinking and 2. That he may need to see a doctor and possibly get on medication for his problem.
Trust me even though its easy to think that maybe its you a man gets a happy woody just from waking up or being relaxed and get did with you when drinking so it is not you its him .
Stop making his body your problem. Only the doctor can fix this issue.