I need help understanding Epilepsy and treatment !

My fiance was told he was epileptic when he was about 14 years old ..prob had about 2 seizures with in that time till 18 ....when he was about 25 he suffered from (suicidal headaches ) as the doctor called it and nobody has ever found a cause ..now two years ago he caught a seizure really bad behind the wheel thankfully i was with him and so was our daughter we where able to stop him and get him to the hosp now last wk he totaled a car had one beer and has no memory of anything leading to the accident he didnt hit his head or anything and today he just had a seizure at work and now admitted in the hospital ...see his doctor told himm he can would grow out of his epilepsy and now has him in denial that he has it still ...I have no idea how to deal with this im trying to google as much as i can but i honestly dont know how to help him ..he fears hell lose his license i feel it'll be for the best ,he fears hell be outcast cuz he has it, I don't !...he is 28 yrs old we have two kids ..i fear something can happen to our children or him if im at work and hes a lone ...what does the meds do if there's no cure?I hear certain meds trigger certain things ?I need help i need advice ...n yes i know my spelling is all jacked up here and i honestly don't care im on my phone typing as fast as i can