Hello,

The problem with me is that I and friend met when I went to grad school 3 yrs ago.. From then on we slowly became very good friends who can discuss anything openly..though we had some misunderstandings and fights we still are very good friends until last November when suddenly he started getting sexually attracted to me.. at first I dint realize much and later we started having physical relation, I said I love him and he says he doesnt want any such relation like this so I said we stop being physically close right from the beginning but he never listened to me and even I couldnt say no to him..I thought may be he was confused and loves me but for the fear of being left out(he was in a relation with another girl before he met me ..she left him and married another guy.. he was very devasted when I first met him..later he had an affair with another girl of mine but she took walked over him)like in the past..but now he behaves weirdly doesnt talk to me much smtimes shouts at me..and finally when I said I want to break up and dont want to be anymore he says he wants to be just friends with me...I am totally devasted because now I love him deeply and cant even think of having relation with any one...but he says he doesnt love me at all.. when asked then why was he inclined to have a physical relation with me he says he thought I wanted it so he started but I never wanted anything or hinted him in my actions..though I never resisted him much after he started, I was never so inclined.. I dont know what to do..I am very confused and broken. I should say one thing that he cares a lot about me and he says he just cares for me just as a friend..but why in the first place was he attracted to me and now he feels guilty kinds and says he shudnt have done wht he did and wants me to remain just as a friend..It is very difficult for me to change my feelings for him every now and then.. Please can anyone advise me as to what I need to do with this relation, should I remain as a friend or just break up