This might be long I'm sorry. I'll try to space it out so hopefully it makes more sense.
Background info: My fiance is 20 and I am 23. He takes lithium,geodon and was on seroquil but he is off of it now. I am not sure what type of bipolar he has. We do NOT live together. He lives with his mom, and I think his sister puts stuff in his head.
Ok now to the story. Things were good till this past Monday. I mean we fought alot but it was both of our faults. So this past Sunday he went to his sisters house (she had twins) to see the babies. He texted me thru out the day and talked at night. He had to go to bed early for a "dentist" appointment Monday. SO I let him go, no biggie.
Monday morning comes and I have to go to the store near his house. I live about 10 mins from him. A town over. So I texted him near 12 when his appointment was and he said that he was going at 1:30 instead because he couldn't make the 12 to get a filling. So after 2pm I went past his house, his mom car was there and the front door was open. I tired calling, no answer, left a voicemail. So he texted me after 3 saying he was home and went to another town, after he told me he was going to the dentist by his house, he said his neighbor took him. So I ignored him for a while so we wouldn't fight. Things were ok, after that, then around 8pm I went on xbox (he is always on that thing) I joined a few matches and then we started to argue, He told me to go f__k myself and just really mean things. Then we were ok, then around 11pm he called me like he always does and he was just the meanest person in the world. He goes life is a b__ch huh, he goes non of your business why you made me mad. I go then why do you say I make you happy, he goes you do my life is miserable. (he wants to join the navy) So I said oh was your dad there, he goes f__k you and hangs up, sends me a text I pissed him off and then at 6am he sent a text and said no matter what he will always love me no matter how much we fight. ok,fine.
Tuesday, things were ok, didn't hear from him till after 5pm. HE asked me not to ignore him, because If he doesn't talk to me all day I ignore him. So he told me to txt him on my breaks, which is weird because usually he wants me to call at atleast the last 5 min of my half cuz he only has limited minutes. SO I let it go, he had to go to bed early which he went at like 9:20 (sent a text) and that he would see me tomorrow morning.
Wednesday, the big start of the fight. So he was supposed to go to an amusement park with me and my son and be at my house by 9:45am. He never called or texted and never showed. So I was pissed and he texted me at 3pm that he was awake and he was sorry,called him self a loser and why am i still with him. So i was livid and I ignored him for 2 in a half days. I mean he could have texted me if he really cared right?
Thursday his engagement ring came in the mail and I told him on xbox, no response.(he lost it when we were together, the ring was kinda big on him) He still had he loved me on his bio on xbox.
SO fast forward to yesterday (Friday) i sent him a text asking what was going on. No response, he came on xbox around 4pm, saw him in a party chat so I joined, he left. Two 15 year old boys were in the chat, so I asked him what he said. There like oh, he said he just got up and was texting an emily all day. I guess they said they only played with him for a few on Thursday. We both don't know these kids so I dont know if they were making it up or not. So my fiance was messaging me(and took me and that kid off his friend list) on xbox saying, oh were done I cant handle the stress, you ignore me, ill ignore you forever bye. SO I said call me, i deserve the truth, so after a few min he did because he didnt want to cry. So we talked for a few and first I go whose emily, hes like I honestly dont know. he was like oh lets go back out but you cant ignore me and stuff and of course he turned it all around like it was my fault. He always does that. So then after a few mins he like, sorry I dont see us working out and he hangs up.
Flash forward to Fri night. MY friend was mad so she said lets go over to his house, so we did and he came outside to talk. He's like I was just pissed because you ignored me for almost 3 days. I said well you could have texted me or called. He goes I know. SO we talk and he is like, I wanna stay with you, just work on what I said (not accusing,not ignoring or getting mad if he doesn't text right away) So I said fine same goes for you, he goes ok. I asked to look at his phone so he went and brought it out. He took my pic off his screensaver because he was mad. Then I saw 2 pics of his face, he goes I took them because I was bored. I just let it go. So I leave and at 1045pm he calls me for a half hour. We talk about things and he still swears there is no emily no anybody. So he goes I am going to bed early because were going to my sisters house tomorrow and I don't know what time. She lives 45 mins away from them. So I said fine and let him go, said our I love yous and he was like you going to text me when you go to bed and wake up. I said sure, and I did.
So that's it so far. I am so confused. I have a weird feeling and I don't know what about. The emily things confuses me. I mean his phone didn't have anything though I know he could erase it. The pic of his face. He did request me as a friend on xbox last night but he said he would change his bio later, which he didn't then last night he was like I'll do it tomorrow.
He told me he hasn't took his meds in 4 days. And this time last year, he broke up with me for 2 weeks. I am hurt and torn. I don't know what to think or do. Part of me feels numb and like there is something going on,then part of me is like your just a worry wort and maybe he isn't lying. I think something is going on he just isn't telling me. It's already after 12:30pm and I haven't heard from him yet, that's why I think he is lying about going to his sis house and could be talking to someone. He also says he has a bad memory and can't remember what happened a few days ago. He also keeps making excuses why he doesn't want to sleepover anymore (my futon is to hard, I need more sleep)
Sorry this is long, I had to get it all out, what do you guys think? Thank you in advanced for any advice/opinions.
He's young and possibly immature and is suffering from the effects of a terrible disease. Neither one of those factors are good for a relationship. If you really are serious about staying together, you both need to learn about his illness. He needs to take his medicine. You both could probably benefit from some kind of guided therapy, whether it be individual, group, couple, et cetera.