im not your age, but i was pregnant in my last year of high school too.
no one pointed or laughed, but i did get stares and whispers here or there.
i just ignored it, why should their words or opinions or actions hold such power over me and my choices, is what i thought.
-May i just ask why you had no choice but to keep the baby? i mean you do have options.
Adoption, an open adoption where you recieve updates on the child and can decide how involved in the child's life you are.-
I never had that many friends to begin with, a few good friends here and there, i lost touch with a handful of them because they went off to college/university, started their careers, were going on exciting trips here or there. My best friend stuck by me, my mom, boyfriend and my boyfriends parents supported me through my pregnancy, i dont know what i would do or how i would cope without them.
Even when my baby was born, my boyfriends sister inlaw was so supportive, she helped me out alot, and i can honestly say i was lost overwhelmed and stressed during the first few weeks of my child being born. all the support and help i got, i was thankful for more than ever.
I got pregnant at 18, a year older than you, had my baby at 19 and I am now 20, my son is a year old, and things have not changed with my social life. News flash, they do not change after you have a child lol.
I dont go to parties, clubs, sleep overs, hang outs, movies or dinners as often, vacations, all that fun stuff that i see most of my friends doing.
I rarely have a 'date night' with my boyfriend to a movie and or dinner, no snuggles on the couch, i rarely ever see my best friend now that she has a boyfriend and is going to college.
Free-time and time to myself is history, and i dont even remember what that was now, my days consist of, feeding, changing, cleaning, playing, washing, folding, dishes, cooking, and repeating all these things day in and day out.
My son was not planned either, my boyfriend stuck by my side, we combined savings, we had a pretty stable financial income, but he switched jobs to a 3am to 3pm job when i was 6 months pregnant we needed the extra money just to be safe; and good thing we did because within...5or 7 months of our son being born we had almost used up all our savings..so much for being financially stable..i am going back to work to bring in an income, i am planning on going to college next year to get a career job instead of some crummy retail job so i can make better money now, things are never easy having a child without being fully prepared.
my advice to you, is to stop worrying about what others think. you will always be judged in life, even more so now that you are young and pregnant.
start thinking ahead by saving all that you can for your child if you still plan on keeping the baby, forget about a social life because for the next year or so you are not going to have time for that, trust me.
where are you and this baby going to live? under your parents roof i am assuming? if so, think of a way you can repay your family for putting you and your child up, because they most likely will be the ones supporting you financially because they bring in a much more stable income than you.
work hard in school, look into taking online college courses when you graduate school, its alot better to get a career in something money wise, rather than having a retail job somewhere, and that career will also help you down the road by getting you a place of your own, supporting yourself and child, having more savings for your child in the future and you will be able to support your child fully.
i am not saying these things to judge you or criticize you, so please dont take it that way, its just these things matter now more than what people who in a year or more from now, will have forgotten your name and you will have forgotten about them too.
like i said, there is always going to be people judging you in this world, brush it off because they do not matter.
if you ever need to talk, PM me anytime hun.
good luck.
