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I can't tell when i started to feel unhappy, it just happened. I'm constantly being ignored and made fun of at school, even from some of the teachers!

The past week this boy started to speak to me and compliment me and i thought i was falling in love with him. At first I was wary, of course but he was really nice.
He invited me out to a date for Saturday at 12 0 clock in a cafe. I don't think i'd ever been so happy before, my parents even noticed at home. I came and I waited for him till 4 and he still never showed up. The worst part is that there where lots of people from school there, even all his friends and they where all looking at me and whispering and some of them didn't even cover up the fact that they where laughing at me.

I felt embarrassed but i was still sure that it was a coincidence.

I wanted to talk to him today but he was just hanging around with his friends and they all laughed at me as i walked by, including him.

I can't stop crying and I suppose it's my fault in the first place for ever thinking that he could ever like someone like me. I know I should be angry with him but thinking about him just makes me weak.

How can I get over him?
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First Helper BlackFreeman
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replied July 21st, 2010
At first you should have got to know him better, got to know his personality etc. He isn't worrying about you. So don't worry about him. All I got to say is learn from your mistakes.
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replied July 21st, 2010
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What a jerk! I am sorry that you have gone through these experiences. That is bullying for sure. Is there any counselors at school that you can talk to?

Find nice young people to spend time with: church group, political group for teens, debate club, fundraisors for cancer, environmental group...there are kids like you that volunteer or hang out together that are not "cool". Please, please find some nice kids! Do not dislike yourself!! You are an intelligent and beautiful girl
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replied June 30th, 2011
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replied July 21st, 2010
Hey,
There are some people in this world who just want to pick on other people. it makes them feel superior.

If it was a prank, let them have it. You're better than them and you know it.

With help to get over it, just keep your mind off it. Play some games, read a book, watch some movies talk to people etc,

Its not your fault, and like i said some people are just messed up like that!

Stay strong and keep your head up Smile

If you ever need a chat message me x
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replied July 27th, 2010
Wow what a mean thing for someone to do. Sounds like he has a deep hole where his soul should be. Well I like you. I think its awesome that you stayed there till 4 and didn't sweat the other kids snickering. They will grow into cruel twisted desperate adults while you seem to be a loving trusting person. congradulations you have got it made.
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replied July 28th, 2010
BlackFreeman wrote:
Wow what a mean thing for someone to do. Sounds like he has a deep hole where his soul should be. Well I like you. I think its awesome that you stayed there till 4 and didn't sweat the other kids snickering. They will grow into cruel twisted desperate adults while you seem to be a loving trusting person. congradulations you have got it made.


Haha, yes the hole must be pretty deep. Thanks, staying there till 4 was stupid of me though, now i know i should have just gone home. Theyve probably all told him how late I stayed till so he'll probably think im just pathetic. Some of these kids seem nice to each other, just not to me. I don't know if ill end up having a better life then them, that seems unlikely at the moment. I guess i am trusting but a little too much, wouldnt you say? :p
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replied July 28th, 2010
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Hey,
There are some people in this world who just want to pick on other people. it makes them feel superior.

If it was a prank, let them have it. You're better than them and you know it.

With help to get over it, just keep your mind off it. Play some games, read a book, watch some movies talk to people etc,

Its not your fault, and like i said some people are just messed up like that!

Stay strong and keep your head up Smile

If you ever need a chat message me x



I have been listening to a lot of music recently to take my mind off it, i love just listening to it and dreaming but usually that ends up wasting a lot of time :S

thanks for being so kind about it though Very Happy
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replied July 28th, 2010
I like how Jessie said I was beautiful but im honestly not
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if anyone wants to see a picture just contact me.
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replied July 28th, 2010
The guy who invited you out is just not worth it. He's probably listening to his friends who made the plan to have a joke on you and he's just a simple follower. You shouldnt be upset over people like that because they are imature and still need to grow up and start to behave their real age and not pre school. keep your chin up and be bigger than them act like your the one who is laughing at them!
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replied August 4th, 2010
maybe the guy is a bully or a stupid.
you make a great step, going to the cafe.
now the second one: find good people, that treats you better.

life is like a box of chololate, you never know what you can find.

bye carl
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replied April 26th, 2011
I feel your pain
A similar thing happened to me. I'm also fifteen and far from being popular. It's not so much my looks than my social awkwardness though. I have a learning difficulty which makes me slightly awkward in social situations. I have trouble looking someone in the eye or guessing at their feelings or intentions. Even if I don't say a thing, it seems people can tell. As a shy person, I'd always ignored them without it being beneficial to me. The teasing would continue. It was never flat-out mean as much as mocking. You know when someone is nice and complimenting but with that loud voice and silly grin? I'm not a complete dumb-a** and I can tell. Finally what made the people stop was showing them how smart I am. I began teasing them back, jokingly taking everything as friendly banter. I let people know that I was in every honor's class the school offered in discrete manners and helped them with their schoolwork.

All this to say that I feel your pain. A boy once contacted me on facebook telling me he wanted to hang out and get to know me better. This boy was not especially popular but was on the football team and quite kind. I found out that two other boys had hacked on to his account and wanted to play a prank on me. The boy in question felt so sorry and apologized. Since then however, I'm a bit overly cautious with friendliness and compliments.
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