I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is to lose a beloved pet, and my heart goes out to you.

Not necessarily. I get attached to animals very easily, but not so to children. I am not maternal towards children at all.




I have no guilt feelings over aborting an embryo over 20 years ago. I see nothing wrong with killing an embryo/fetus. The woman wanting it *out* of her body is all the justification needed to kill it.

Edited to include another message reply in this post instead of using multiple posts to reply to the same poster.

I don't understand people killing others.

We've talked to doctors, i use the same formula as you do, an Enfamil formila.
The doctor said its normal, hes just a mama's boy. He wants to be held constantly, just sitting beside him is not good enough, he wants to be in my arms whether im cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, on the toilet, getting something across the room, you name it. and i am breaking him on this habbit slowly. but its hard to do when my boyfriends parents are superstitious of every little thing, and think that if he cries its bad for him and he could choke. thats another issue on its own though.

the crying is normal. Ive looked into it, and talked to doctors, they say it is normal and i just have to break him of it.
He likes to be held when he falls asleep and knows when you put him down and wakes up. its hard, but manageable. but stressful and frustrating at the same time.
which is why i dont walk around humming a tra-la-la tune i my head 24/7 and laugh off sleepless nights and what not.

I do leave him to go pee, but at the beginning when i first had him home, i had 2 bladder infections from holding him, feeding him and making sure he was ok, i would go long periods of times without peeing.
and yes i know there is no harm in letting the baby cry, but you see i can only go so long without wanting to rip my hair out due to frustration and loosing patience when i hear my son crying for so long. then i pick him up and hes fine. i let him cry for a half hour or hour now to try and break him of this, and i am increasing the time slowly.

And I don't understand what another woman's business (one you most likely don't even know) is to you.

No one gets killed in an abortion. Cells die. Just like when you wash your face.

Why do you think abortion kills only cells? Can you prove that abortion ONLY destroys Zygotes? Do you know what KIND of cells are formed after conception? Did you know that most abortions occur AFTER the zygote stage? Did you know there is actually a heart beat only after about 20 days after conception? Did you know that you used to be an embryo and fetus? Did you know that women abort fetuses, too? Are fetuses just cells? Even when they have a gender? Have you ever learned about what forms in each stage that occurs in the womb?

Embryos and fetuses ARE killed in an abortion. Unless you want to argue medical books that actually refer to it as a death of the embryo or fetus.

Actually, a lot of people would disagree with this statement (myself included). CIO is certainly not a method for every parent and there are people who believe that leaving a baby to cry actually undermines their sense of security (amongst other things). Leaving a baby to cry for hours is horrible, why would anyone do that to their child???

If [b]you/b] couldn't have an abortion then that's fine - noone is asking you to but don't be so arrogant as to believe you have the right to decide that for other women. You don't have to understand it but for some women (myself included) having an abortion is the right thing to do.

Depends on the sense but letting them cry for 20 mins after they have been checked for basic nessicities, doesn't hurt either. Every kid is different, so I think understanding that kid, since we all know they have different cries can determine whether you let them cry or hold them.

My daughters were both planned, and are both a joy to me. They are also night and day from each other. My older child will be 3 in August, and has always been a high needs baby. Not special needs - high needs. She's always been extremely clingy, emotional, and generally a very hard baby to deal with. I stayed home with her for a year and a half, and anytime I'd leave her with someone (even my husband) for a little while to get some peace, she'd scream. If you'd put her down, she'd scream.

My younger child is a very quiet, timid baby. We weren't sure what to do with a newborn who didn't cry. It's crazy how different she is from her sister. If we'd had her first, our other child would have horrified us. I'm grateful to have gotten them in the order that I did, because I'm only now realizing exactly how hard I had it with my first one. I probably would have entertained using my state's Safe Haven laws. (Not really, but I would have thought about it.)

Even with my near-perfectly behaved infant, I wouldn't wish her on someone who didn't want a baby. She's not as much work as her sister, but she IS work. I'm constantly having to stop whatever I'm doing to change her diaper, feed her, comfort her, rock her... and if I try to put her down without waking her up, you can bet that'll be the moment when her sister comes barreling into the room making all kinds of racket. It's a miracle if I get to shower that day. I almost never eat breakfast because between two babies I just don't have time. My house is almost never tidy. I'm always running between stopping my 2 year old from putting crackers in the dvd player and popping the pacifier back in my 3 month old's mouth.

Motherhood is a job. It might be a job you enjoy, but it's a job. A full time job without pay, vacations, lunch breaks or sick days. If you're lucky enough to have a nanny or a family member who is willing to take the baby(ies) for a few hours, great. Most people don't have that though. It's worth it for me, and I'll never say it's not. But I would also never say that it's easy or pretend that life is perfect. Not even close.

Wow, I'm sorry to hear this seems you have a child with colic, thats not something that typically happens.




Many mothers are horrified to discover they have a colic child even with a full support system and it sounds like you'

LOL I'm glad I had my baby too. I adore him, he's an infant but he is awesome very playful not fussy. He sees a baby or toddler crying and he gets this puzzled look on his face like why? What's your deal? lol I think he's one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen in my life, some folk may disagree but I don't give a crap so long as no one disrespects or insults my child there is no beef.

I'm glad she (the OP) was able to get an abortion.

I'm glad I'm a guy.

If you didn't want a baby why did you have sex? Having sex is a choice.

Because having sex doesn't mean you are prepared or want to have children (many people have sex for pleasure you know, it's not just for reproduction).

Abortion is also a choice

But pregnancy is a natural, possible outcome of sex. It is an outcome that people ingaging in sex are implicitly willng to accept. That is, they are willing to accept it unless they are willing to also accept having an abortion. Therefore abortion becomes a good thing because it allows them to have sex without accepting the natural outcome. Is abortion a good thing?

then maybe they shouldn't be participating in an activity that is specifically known for causing pregnancy?

Wouldn't that make sense? Otherwise, abortion should be viewed as a good thing because it allows someone to engage in sex without having to be responsible for the natural outcome. So, is abortion a good thing or a bad thing?

Most definantly bad for the person being "terminated".