Hi,

I have got married one year back. I am of 28 years old, Eventhough I am of 5'7'' in heght, I look like a 20 years old guy. I am not that handsome and dark in color.

I have got married to a girl who is of good looking and buetiful. I went to see her before marriege and agreed to marry her as she is beautyful. She has not seen me clearly on that day. Later on my engagement day, we have seen together clearly and
on that day she told, you looked tall and handsome on out first visit, but this is happening like this. From that point I understood that she do not satisfied with personality. After that, we got married and I thought that I could satisfy her.

We started living together after marriege. After 15 days of staying together, we have seen one guy going infront of our house though window, she suddenly went and open the door to see him clearly, as she was running to see him. At that time, I
really felt very bad, Why she is so tempting to see other guys. My heart almost broken on that day. As in indian community, no one likes to see their wifes attracted towards others. From that day onwards, I started observing her. Not observing, when only we are statying together, anybody can see whet the
others are doing na.

In my aprtment we used to stay in the gound floor, Parking in in-front of our flat only. Whenever one black Car comes and parked in-front of our door, she used almost run to open the door and see him. One day, I asked her whose car is that? she
only told, One guy is working in Satyam Computers and that is his car. I have seen him one day, she is of good looking and handsome guy. From that point onwards, I used to feel very bad, whenever that cars comes and she goes to open the door to see him. But, I could not say anything, just I was thinking why I got the wife like this, instead of of a some sincere girl. The same thing happnes in case of Pulsar bike. Whenever I listen the sound of this Bike, she stops her work in the Kitchen and come to open the door to see him. I have seen that bike-guy one day, He was such a handsome guy that I am no way in comparision to him. This also brokened my heart.

Later, she also got a job in the same company as that of mine. We both used to go to office in the same bus. Then the story

again repeated. There is one guy, who is handsome. Whenever she sees him, she starts excited and speaks loudely. She behaves in such a way that she likes him a lot. He and I can understood this, but don;t know that.
Whenever she sees him in cafetaria, she turns towards him a lot to see him.

If I show any of my friends to her, She says he is handsome. she always speaks about their personality. After that I stopped
making friends, if they are good looking I avoid them. She told many time, she like dusky/black people who are good height and personality. I am black but not having good personality.

After that, We moved nearer to stay in nearby colony to our organization. The same story repeats. There one family used tostay beside our flat. She used to go nearer his house and walked there daily in the morning, even we have the facility to
walk in-front of our flat. That was hurted me a lot. One black and handsome guy used to come to our neighbors house now and then. When she listens his sound, she starts going out and to their house to speak to them. That I was not able to digest
that. We fighted a lot and many times on these issues about her behaviour. When my neighbours vacated form that flat, from the next day, she stoped walking in the morning. Like this there are many situation which I cannot digest.

I am not that week, I am 5'7'' and 60Kgs. But, she may not be satisfied with me or I don't no. We used to enjoy a lot sexually. Now, we have a baby also. Only the issue is I am not having good personality than others like 6feets and handsome.

If she sees a good personality guy, she likes them a lot and speaks nicely to them, even if they are not that talkative. She only speaks to them. Whenever we are walking together, if she a guy going infront, she walks fastly. she goes with her

friends(boys) by talking with them, instead of waiting for me if I am lttle late. she don;t wait for me. This is also hurting me.

If there are guys, she changes her daily routines and adjust accordingly so that she can spend or come with them in buses. Because my baby, she used to go early to home. Now a days, some new guys are coming from our locality. So she is coming again in the bus, so that she can come with them. Some situation, she don't me and my baby like this.

If any of our relatives comes to our house, she walks along with them or follows them from this room to that room wherever they goes.
We argue a lot on these things. She says, she likes me. I don;t know whether I like her or not. I like her just because she likes me too. When, she runs after other, I hate her a lot. But, I want to live with her. I know, how difficult for a woman
to live after marriege in indian community. But, my problem is, why she is always attracted towards other guys easily. I know how the guys speaks badly about woman in offices and how they try to flat other woman/girls in the office. Even guys tries to flat girls/woman eventhough they are sincere, but what my wife is doing, she only runs after them.

I don't like her speaking to others closely. She like spending with my friends than me. Some times, if any of friends calls me, she says so interestingly to tell him we will come their house.
All these things are making me sleep-less. There are some days when I slept at 5AM in the morning just thinking about these things. If this continues, I may really gone mad soon. I don;t kniw whom to speak these issues.

She says she likes me too, like also. Only the thing she don't like on me I am doughting about her. But, i am doughting her because of her behaviour only. She spend nicely with me in the obsence of other guys. If any guy comes in between, she runs after them. That is hurting me a lot.

I am want to live with her, but I am not able digest her tempting behaviour towards others. Am i too posessive? Is she too tempting towards other guys? I don;t where the problem is. I am not able to spend the days happily. But, I want to live with
her happily. Do I need ask her to change her ways. She is nice girl other than this. She is very positive about life. I want live with her, but happily.

Can anybody please suggest solution to my problem. Some time she may not able to bare my posessive behaviour. We may take divource if this problem continues.
Except that she is very nice girl.

I am not able to understand whether the the problem is in my way of thinking or in her behaviour. Am I too possessive? or Is she too tempting/attracted towards other handsome guys. How to resolve this issue, what is the solution for my problem.

sometimes i loose the interest on everything and not able to concentrate on anything. I am not able to sleep properly, sometime I am sleeping at 5am in the morning by thinking about these things for the whole night. If this continues, I may surely gone mad soon..

Please suggest.